Today was a day/date to remember (a day I will always carry in my heart), January 24th!
It now has been exactly 8 years since Nancy passed away. As I can never forget the many wonderful years I have spend with this great Wife, I of course went to the Gravesite to place some Flowers down. With each visit, it beaks my heart... seeing that I have only once seen somebody else put Flower by her side. I lift the Vase out from the Grave-marker and all I see is Spiderweb from not being used.
She was a devoted Mom to so many Children and Grand-Children (some living close by) and not seing some of them paying their Respect is hurtful in my Book. I can not believe it and the funny thing, Qing even less. She's always willing to go with me and pay her respect to a Woman she only heard about! I now have (and I quote) a most "Wonderful" Lao Po that some Men can only dream about.
Anyway, this we did today after we had Breakfast at the "Way Station" in Newhall.. one of our favorite Breakfast places.
To work off some of the Calories we consumed, we headed to Vasquez Rocks Park for some serious climbing to the very top of some of these beautiful rock formations. Something we definitely need to do again, but spending more time there.
Ps: To Nancy; Our wonderful time together will never fade or leave my Heart and we still to this day share a Kiss through the "Rose" that hangs in our Bedroom.
It now has been exactly 8 years since Nancy passed away. As I can never forget the many wonderful years I have spend with this great Wife, I of course went to the Gravesite to place some Flowers down. With each visit, it beaks my heart... seeing that I have only once seen somebody else put Flower by her side. I lift the Vase out from the Grave-marker and all I see is Spiderweb from not being used.
She was a devoted Mom to so many Children and Grand-Children (some living close by) and not seing some of them paying their Respect is hurtful in my Book. I can not believe it and the funny thing, Qing even less. She's always willing to go with me and pay her respect to a Woman she only heard about! I now have (and I quote) a most "Wonderful" Lao Po that some Men can only dream about.
Anyway, this we did today after we had Breakfast at the "Way Station" in Newhall.. one of our favorite Breakfast places.
To work off some of the Calories we consumed, we headed to Vasquez Rocks Park for some serious climbing to the very top of some of these beautiful rock formations. Something we definitely need to do again, but spending more time there.
Ps: To Nancy; Our wonderful time together will never fade or leave my Heart and we still to this day share a Kiss through the "Rose" that hangs in our Bedroom.
Arnold,
ReplyDeleteI think your blog was written in poor taste. Your assumptions are absolutely unnecessary and uncalled for. You have NO idea how any of us choose to honor my Grandmas memory. Flowers are not the only indication that someone has visited her gravesite! Her Great Grandchldren that have never had the opportunity to meet her know just as much about their "Granny Nanny" as the ones who have. I think you could've found a better way to honor my Grandma than to speak poorly about her Children and Grandchildren. We all miss her dearly and think about her often. Wether or not we choose to visit her gravesite is not an indicator of how much we love and miss her.
Yes, it is an indicator! Like someone not visit her in the Hospital when she could have died. When I went to Germany in 2007, the first thing I wanted to do (guess).. was pay respect to my Grand-pa who had passed away in 86 and visit his grave. This is just what one does if you really loved someone.
DeleteOf course it is in poor taste for someone that feels quilty of something that was pointed out. I have a good idea from whom this reply was coming from and I dont really care what this Person say's or does anyway. I stand by my Post, as it is how I feel inside and why would I change it for what? Politically correctness?
Wow really Arnold,you have it all wrong, just because I don't get too my mother's grave had absolutely nothing to do with how much I loved her or think of her,because it's not many days,that in one way or another I don't think about my mother and how much I miss her,I had no room to take her in but I did knowing that it would make it a little easier,on her while she was taking her treatments. And in the end she ended up going home,due to the fact that I had young kids at the time and it was very difficult to keep them as quiet as my mom needed,but I tried. I admit I haven't been to my mother's gravesite but if you knew anything,you would realize that going there is only for show,I don't need to go there to communicate with my mom or let her know how much loved her and miss her,but you on the other hand are the biggest hypocrite of them all,just one it would be nice for you to show my mom the respect she deserves and say something nice about her and your life without mentioning your new wife and how wonderful your life it's with her,the only reason I can figure that you would dare to say something like that,would be to try and make yourself look better,and make everyone think you were a devoted husband,and try to sooth your guilt feeling,because someone that is not guilty,never has to argue his innocence,or lie make himself look better.so next time you have something to say,your better make sure your facts are right,other wise you will only make yourself look stupid and guilty. So what are you guilty of Arnold?not loving my mother the way she deserved,or treating her right,or is it that you were communicating with your present wife before my mom was even dead. doesn't matter as long as we know that we love my mom just as much now as we did then. Unconditionally.
DeleteWow really Arnold,you have it all wrong, just because I don't get too my mother's grave had absolutely nothing to do with how much I loved her or think of her,because it's not many days,that in one way or another I don't think about my mother and how much I miss her,I had no room to take her in but I did knowing that it would make it a little easier,on her while she was taking her treatments. And in the end she ended up going home,due to the fact that I had young kids at the time and it was very difficult to keep them as quiet as my mom needed,but I tried. I admit I haven't been to my mother's gravesite but if you knew anything,you would realize that going there is only for show,I don't need to go there to communicate with my mom or let her know how much loved her and miss her,but you on the other hand are the biggest hypocrite of them all,just one it would be nice for you to show my mom the respect she deserves and say something nice about her and your life without mentioning your new wife and how wonderful your life it's with her,the only reason I can figure that you would dare to say something like that,would be to try and make yourself look better,and make everyone think you were a devoted husband,and try to sooth your guilt feeling,because someone that is not guilty,never has to argue his innocence,or lie make himself look better.so next time you have something to say,your better make sure your facts are right,other wise you will only make yourself look stupid and guilty. So what are you guilty of Arnold?not loving my mother the way she deserved,or treating her right,or is it that you were communicating with your present wife before my mom was even dead. doesn't matter as long as we know that we love my mom just as much now as we did then. Unconditionally.
DeleteYes, he does have it all wrong, but we all know the truth, including Grandma and that's all that matters. His guilt shows clearly through his posts.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you have to audacity of indirectly accusing us as not loving my grandmother as much as you supposedly do is so incredibly despicable. I visit my grandmother as much as I have the opportunity to, and although it's not as much as I would like, it doesn't prove your uncouth accusations. I have more people than there really should be buried at eternal valley, and given that I am a full time student, don't have the finances to bring flowers to everyone of them, that doesn't mean that I didn't love them or don't have any respect for them. The fact that you would even try to point out something like this is so disrespectful, not only to all of her children and grandchildren, but to her memory as well because you are trying to soil the love we bared for her and vice versa by saying we don't even love her enough to visit her. You were the one who couldn't even show her what she deserved by waiting a respectable time, given how long you were together and how much you supposedly cared for her, before remarrying, and you pointing it out only proves your guilt, because you are tying to make us seem like the bad people in the entire situation, when we have only shown the utmost love and respect for my grandmother. So please keep your loathsome comments about how much me and my family care about my grandmother out of you mouth and blogsite, because it really only proves you a coward that you have to make some ridiculous post about it rather than actually confronting us about it.
ReplyDeletePitiful.....some of you should take a closer look into a Mirror ones in a while. I NEVER wrote or said anything about NOT loving your Mom/Grams, i only mentioned what I seen/or not seen and made a comment on it. I certainly don't have any "Guilt" about anything I've done or do, but there is some... like I've said "Look in the Mirror"!
ReplyDeleteYou're mentioning what you saw on one occasion, then you are drawing assumptions based on that and posting it on Social Media to make yourself feel like a good man when in reality we know you never go there either. But who's to judge?? We have never called you out or given you a hard time for the choices you made after her death. Everyone has their own way of paying respects to a loved one who has passed, so instead of judging maybe you need to respect that. I'm pretty sure this bickering back and forth is not what she wanted. You're happily married now, so leave the past alone, we have!
ReplyDeleteYou're right! I should leave the past alone (not that it's easy). One occasion? NO, you need more than two hands to count those visit's of mine. Remember I drive by there at least 5 times a week, sometimes I just stop and sit there remembering and calling Minnie to just talk. I'm really not the bad person some make me out to be....
ReplyDeleteyes i agree with you, but to all that loved her i believe she gets enough rain on her grave.
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ReplyDeleteWow now you know how your Nancy felt. I talked to her she never mentioned any concerns. She was a good woman. She would be upset by how you acted. One of you anons and you know who you are was even rude to her younger sisters. I mean one of her kids. Disrespectful to people who had no control over being in the situation. Even blaming their grandfather. I loved Nancy because she was a great friend. Arnold did a lot for everyone. You should be ashamed. I can tell you this if you have nothing good to say don't say anything. Arnold has never forgotten his family. He got no support from you all. Just leave him alone.
ReplyDeleteThis is Nancys brother in law. No need to respond i don't need internet tough guys.
Mike McCorkle.