One more Poem !

As I have promised Qing a new Poem about arriving here in the States , I spend two day's at my Lunch-break and came up with this my 14th Poem for my LaoPo . She has not seen it yet , as she is out with the Neighbor's Girlfriend shopping again . I used this opportunity to fine-print it on some nice Paper , as I alway's have done in the past with my other ones . I'll show it to her when she get's Home . Funny , I say that ... you'll see why .

A year that moved quite fast , but came to a wonderful ending !

I'm sorry , this Blog has not been as active as usually . As I spend much time with my Sweetheart as possible and I still have the Mod Job at our Forum to think about too .

As this is the sixth week my Sweetheart ( Wife ) is now with me here in America and doing very well adopting to the new surrounding's , which I know are not easy for her . I'm of course are doing my best , to make Qing as comfortable as I can possibly do ... under circumstance's that we are now faced with each and every day .

She has so far , celebrated two Thanksgiving Dinner's , met pretty much all of my In-law's already . Now we are concentrating on her learning to Drive and signing her up for a English Class early next year , which by the way ... she is looking so much forward to . I guess , she know's that this will open the door to meet many of her own kind ( chinese ) and make some new Friend's here . It also gives her an opportunity to be out of the House at least a couple of day's a week .

Now , it's slowly off to meet my Step-children and Grand-children from my late Wife's side of the Family . That will not cause no problem , because I will make sure there will be no negative comment concerning her or myself for that matter .
I will not tolerate anything that would upset my Sweetheart in any way .

So , as I wish everybody following my Blog a safe , healthy and happy New Year .

Being finally together .

As this is the second week of Qing being in America , all is going very well so far . We share the Cooking , cleaning and everything else that comes with making a House a Home . After taking the first week off Work , to be with my LaoPo ... to kind of break her in ... to our way's of Life here . As I have alway's thought , that the Food would be number one concern for Qing here . But , I was proofen wrong there . It is actually , not being able to go anywhere without a Car . Especially in Palmdale , where the nearest Market is 2 miles away and the nearest Shopping Mall about five miles . Quite a walk , if she would want to visit either one . So , she is doing things like reading , listening to Music and in the afternoon ... starting to make a wonderful chinese Dinner for when I come home . It is alway's so hard to leave in the morning for me and when I do come home after work , she is like such a happy Spouse . I need not explain how I feel seeing her this happy , after coming to an empty house for almost three year's . I really think , my Life just got sooo much better ... having a equally sweet Wife as my first one . I think , that I could not be any happier and I don't even have to try too hard either . It just comes so natural to both of us , to make each other as happy as one could ever ask for .

All this , after only two weeks . I truely found the most wonderful Lady ... I call my Wife .

95% back to normal .

So , after coming home yesterday .. I expected to have all my House back in order . Well , it almost was . The only thing not done , was my walk-in Closet . The Carpet was not down yet . But everything else looked very much new , where all the damage had been . It encouraged me do do even more straightening out of my Garage and clean out more draws in the Bedroom , to make room for my Sweetheart's things . Knowing , after I am finished ... there will be a nice long HOT shower waiting for me . Boy , no need to tell everybody ... how good that felt having ( after six weeks ) Hot water again , in your House .

Anyway , had a wonderful Dinner with my oldest Grand-daughter , her Husband and their little Girl ... my great- grand-daughter . One of five , as I write this . Dinner was on them , as I proceeded and gave her many of my late wife's things . Knowing how close they are to me , but I know she will treasure them likewise .

So , overall ... this was a wonderful day ! This was the first time , she could face up to her Grandma being gone and actually look and take some of her item's that I held so long in my Heart . To think , it almost has been three year's already .. when she passed away . When someone say's ... Time fly's , he ain't kidding .

Now , looking at ONE more week ... the BEE and his FLOWER ... together finally .

Part two of my Recap .

So after getting back Home , it was going to be ... the waiting Game all over .
Now , it was waiting for the actual Interview date from the US Consulate . Month's went by . By August , I went to my Lawyer and ask ... if We could expect a date soon . He quoted me , that it normally takes three month's .. from the time they received the Paper's from the Visa Center here in the US . Well , this was the third month already and I was anticipating to be going soon , as I have to make plans to go . At Work , the Ticket's , Hotel's and pack for two weeks and three City's ... with a Local Flight included . Well , I did not have to wait long after going to the Lawyer . Qing had written me and told me of the Interview date . We both were so happy , of course because of knowing when the Interview is , but it was more ... knowing we be together again . This had been the longest waiting period , Qing and I had to endure . Close to seven month's . As we had almost four weeks to plan our Trip's , me to Shanghai and then the one to Guangzhou together . Being , that Qing's birthday was coming up ... right after the Interview date .. I decided to take her to Hong Kong for her special day ( three to be exact ) , since we had to wait for the Visa ( if she passed ) for three to four day's anyway .. so why not spend it in Hong Kong being only about a couple of hour's away by Train .

As I was booking my Flight , Qing's wonderful Brother had gone to work and called up his Friend in Guangzhou to pick us up from the Airport . Also , made reservations at a Hotel only a five minute walk to the Consulate ... and ... made our reservations on Hong Kong Island also , at one of the Hotel's he stay's at most of the time , when in Hong Kong himself .

So you can say , we were all set for a happy reunion and ready to battle the US Consulate ... bringing just about 30 lbs. of paperwork and proof of a ongoing relationship between us . I made my Flight reservations from the 15th Sept . to the 02 nd . of Oct. Doing that , I had noticed that with every Trip , I stay a little longer each time . Do I really mention WHY ?

I split up my fourth Trip as following ... 16th Sept. through the 21st in Shanghai ( at the Holiday Inn Downtown ) 22nd. through the 25th in Guangzhou and 26th through the 28th in Hong Kong and than back to Guangzhou ones more for only one night . To Shanghai on the 29th till the 02 of Oct. and then.. Home again .

I mean , I could say this was the most wonderful Trip of all , but I would only fool myself ... it really does not matter which Trip ... all that matter'd is Qing and I could be together again . The reason this last one is maybe toward's the top of the list , because Qing passed her Interview and finally could come to be with the Bee in Palmdale . The place where this marriage will start , but not the place where Qing and I started to get to know each other .. and that is through our great friend ( Kelly ) our Translator and Chnlove . These two are after all responsible for us coming together as a happy and loving couple . I will alway's show my Graditude toward's ... those kind of People , that help other's falling in Love .

Now , as it is time to wait for Qing's Home-coming on the 21st. ... we can not explain the warmth our Heart's feel ... knowing what we know . Alway's together from then on .
It is Qing's and also My second Marriage , one that will be bound by TRUE LOVE ... soft as a Spring Flower , but strong as Steel .

One Journey comes to a close ... as the other start's and unfold's .

*** 888 *** I LOVE MY LAO PO and she LOVES HER LAO GONG *** 888 ***
*** THE BEE AND THE FLOWER HAVE COME TOGETHER ***

A quick run down of the last two year's .

October 2007 : I made first contact with MIN from Baoding .

Early November 2007 : Decided to keep MIN as a Friend and quit the Search for a chinese Wife .
But , MIN did not want me to quit ... so I agreed to keep on and try again .

November 22nd. send out Cupid Note to LILY from Kunming .

November 25th. wrote a Letter to Qing , instead of a Cupid Note .

November 26th. received reply from LILY . Was happy to receive this of course .

November 27th. Received a Letter back from Qing . Which warmed my Heart instantly .

November 27th. Now I was in a position to have to make a choice . I made one smart and one not so nice decision . I had decided , to keep Qing and NOT answer LILY's Letter at all .

December 2007 : We both exchanged our first Christmas Gift's via Mail Service . Something , I will never forget ... opening that Package from my Sweetheart and reading her X-mas Card . My first look at Qing's Handwriting , something I will treasure forever in my Heart .

During this Time , Qing and I were tested by Father Time for the first time . I had Ticket's already for Shanghai , but not till May 7th . 2008 .

After writing about circa 200 EMF's between us , also many E-Mails which we started with in April 2008 to save and not have to Buy Credit's from Chnlove anymore .
The day finally came , after counting down each and every day .. from both sides of the Globe .

My first Trip , our first meeting , our first Touch , the first Hug and of course our first Kiss ... right there on the very spot , where we first laid Eyes on each other . It really was like we knew one another for years already . This truely was a Magical Moment we will alway's cherish together .

This Trip was from May 7th through May 18th 2008 .
It was also , the Trip where we got Married at the Registry on May 09th 2008 . Including setting up our Wedding Ceremony for the coming August 08th . Yes , we picked this very special day ( 08-08-08 ) it happens only ones every hundred year's . It was also the start of the 2008 Olympic Games in Beijing . A great time to Unite .

After being back home , after our first hard and emotional goodbye's at PuDong airport , it was to be our second test of time . But at least not as long as the first one . Less than three month's , was by far much better than six month's .

My second Trip approached pretty fast , which was to be from August 02nd through the 14th this time . This happen's to be one of my best times of my Life ( I'm sure my Sweetheart's too ) . A most wonderful Wedding Ceremony , with many of Qing Family and Friends , my Mom , my Aunt and Uncle , plus a Friend of mine and his Wife . Before and after the special day , we got to play Tour Guide for my Family and Friend's . As this was my second Trip and only their first .

Time flew by , it was time again .. for every to pack and find their way to the Airport again . Also ones more for Qing and myself to look at each other and say Goodbye again , which by now .. was hurting more by the minute . I was missing her so much when I landed in Seoul ( Korea ) for a lay-over , that I really concidered to turn around and go back to Shanghai . I had never felt this way ... it truely was tearing me apart on the inside .

After arriving Home one more time , my first thought ??? When , am I going to go back to my LaoPo ? I decided on February , the following year . I could not and did not let Qing wait longer than six month's ... over and over like the first wait . I did not want to be part of the Mad rush of everybody going Home for the Spring Festival and not having a chance to Travel anywhere in a more quiet style .
So it was to be ... Feb 13th through the 27th 2009 . One day after my Birthday .

But , before the year's end ... still remembering ... never to have answered LILY's letter . It started to eat away at me inside . I had to write to her and apologize (after almost one year has passed ) to her , for never answering her nice letter . She barely remembered me , but she did ! From then on , we became best of Friend's ... where I can really say , I have two Sister's living in China now ( MIN & LILY ) .

This Trip , my third ... was to be special in a different way . Qing and I , after spending a week in Shanghai together . We were to go by Train to Beijing , yes ... to Sightsee , but first we are to Meet up with Qing's Aunt , Uncle and two of their Children ( Qing's Cousin's ) . As all of you can imagine , we had a very busy ... but wonderful time in and around Beijing , including the Simatai Great Wall , the Forbidden City , Tiannamen Square , the Olympic Village , Summer and Winter Palace's and not to forget the great Food everyday .

Back to Shanghai for three more day's , the final three day's of this Trip .We are both thinking of that awful day , that we knew was coming sooner or later again . The third Goodbye at PuDong Airport . I have gotten to know this Airport quite well , but as I remember ... it's both a Happy place ( to meet ) but also the total opposite ... when I had to leave my Sweetheart ones more . This time not knowing when I will return ? I did want to come , when Qing has her Interview at the US Consulate in GuangZhou . I wanted to be with her , because I knew she was to be very nervous ... and be by her side if the news was Good or Bad .

This will be Continued ...

More Prep ... for my Sweetheart .

As the time moves closer to the 21st. of November date , I am keeping busy with many things . Knowing that my LaoPo , needs to learn how to drive here in America ( I mean our way ) . I know it will not be easy for my Sweetheart , but I'm not going to rush her in that area . I do want her to feel comfortable and I want her to be safe on the Road , before I would let her out on her own . So , the last week or so , I had my little Toyota Pick-up all re-done inside and out . Carpeting , Upholstery , Dashcover with Logo ( BBB loves TTT ) , Doorpanels ... the works . Today , I picked it up from the Paint Shop . For a Car with over half a million miles on it , you would never know it . This Truck has done me a great service over some 20 year's now . It has carried all my Landscape material's , including many of the 600 to 900 lbs. solid Landscape Rock's that I picked up from the Canyon's myself ... some with the Cherry-picker . My Neighbor's are still in awe , how I ever managed to move them on my own ... to my Backyard .
I live by the Motto ... where there is a Will --- there is a Way . So , I can not see myself selling it . I had many offer's from Gardener's , but I told them all NO .

Anyway , she will have an easy to drive Car . Automatic , Air Cond . , Power Steering , Sirius Radio and CD player and with all around good view ... off what's next to or around you in Traffic .

Otherwise , my House ... is quiet now , as all the Tape and plastic and the noisy Fans have been removed . Next week , they will being to patch things up and paint everything in the effected area . Then , I can have my new Water Heater installed ... finally . I have been without Hot water now for almost four weeks . As the Weather is getting colder , I don't appreciate the Cold shower's as much . Who would ?

Just have to hang in there a little longer and then , I can concentrate ... nothing but my Sweetheart's arrival .

Two People ... happy , excited , in Love ... and finally together .

Why is everybody telling me the same thing ?

As today is the 21 st , this means ... there is only one Month of having to wait , for my better half ( Qing ) to finally be by my side . Looking at that , this doesn't feel so bad ... because it has only been not even three weeks that I was with my LaoPo . Another Anniversary for Qing and I is also coming up next month . When Qing get's here to Los Angeles on the 21st , this will be only four day's shy of knowing each other for two year's now through Chnlove . My first letter was send to my Sweetheart on the 23rd. of November '07 .

Now with Her arrival coming up real fast , many People that I gladly tell of this great News ... alway's tell me the same thing . With very few exception's .
You better start cleaning your House , before she get's here !!!
Of course I have an answer for anybody facing me with that question . My House is alway's clean !!!

Even now , with the House torn up in three Rooms and the Garage ... I never have to feel ashamed to have somebody over . It is just , pretty much the same People ... that alway's tell me " Your House is alway's so clean " . Well , I do not have Maid's coming to clean at any time . I just like to have a somewhat alway's presentable Home , one never knows who might drop in ?
Do I take this to Heart , them telling me this so many times ? Of course , I do not ! I know they are just saying it , to have some Fun . They know all to well , how I live and like things in order . Like 128469375 ... so anybody that knows me , knows this . Hahaha

Coming back to my torn -up place . Tomorrow the Inspector will show up and now take an Air sample of that damaged area and Analyse the sample on Friday . If all check's out clean , they will take down all that Tape and Plastic . Remove those Noisy fans that been going no-stop for a week and a half now . Maybe I can get some better sleep after that takes place . I have not slept more than four to five hour's a night , hence they were put up .
Work like this ... the estimate of when will all this be done with , nobody will or can answer you this for with any kind of certaincy . I don't care , as long it is done one week before Qing arrives . Because .... I have to clean the House !!!

Happy Day ... times two !

I can really say that it is . First off , the Contracter's are finally doing what I had hope would happen day's ago already . The walls , that got wet from the leaking Water Heater are taken out and now ... I have two large Fans running day and night to try things out . I will include Photo's here , they took out one of my Toilet's , my Wash Machine , the Hot water Heater and pretty much taped up half the Garage , my Walk-in Closet ... my Master Bathroom and my Wash room . At least , I see things are moving along now quite well . I have trouble sleeping though , due to the two Fans running all the time . They are somewhat noisy I must say . Here are some Photo's of what I'm faced with coming Home each day .

The first Photo , I find very strange . In the Photo ... one can see the " ROSE " that came from my Late Wife's Casket and just above it ... their appear's to be a HEART on my Wall . Right above the Rose . Now , this is something I did not expect or know how it got there ? But . as I have mentioned it many times ... I get many sign's . May it be in my Dream's or now in this Photo , which I think are messages from my late Wife ( Nancy ) that she Loves me . Of course is very happy for me to be happy again ... having found my LaoPo " Qing " . Some P
eople might not believe in those strange ( coincidences ) they might call them or something wrong with the Camera , but I see it ... as I have said here . This really shows me that Life does not end after someone Die's . I knew that all along , because I can not only see those little thing's that happen ... but I can " FEEL " them too .

Anyway , now to the second part of my Post .

Happy times two , yes ... it certainly is that !

As I came Home today , Qing's letter was waiting for me . This I know , because she writes at least two times a week and this was about the time to expect a letter . So , as it happen's , it was what I have been thinking since I got back from my Trip a few weeks ago . She send me the Flight Information for her coming to America ... next month . Of course , the date has to be 11 - 21 ... two of our four Lucky number's ( 8-11-21-26 ) . 8 = for our Wedding of course ; 11 = the Roses I alway's send ( one to the other one , because of the Love between them ) ; 21 = My LaoPo's address , my Mother's address , my Sister Min's address and all of Qing's Phone number's are 21 or add up to 21 ; 26 = of course that is both our day we celebrate our Birhtday's .
So , calling my Sweetheart right after receiving this wonderful News ... you can imagine , how this Phone call proceeded ? You ever want to hear two People in Love and as Happy as can be ... just take a look at Qing and Myself , you will know that this is NO ordinary Love .

36 day's ... this is now like a drop in the Bucket . Had to tell my Flower ... I wont be " LATE " too much . Hahaha
If anyone thinks , that will happen .... YOUR WRONG !!!!

This is a wonderful time , to look back .

This is a time , most of us ... that married a chinese Lady are looking forward to . To finally bring her Home , where she belongs ... to be with her LaoGong . Wherever that might be . This is where Qing and Myself are at this very moment . Waiting one last time to be together for good . This time it will only be for a few more weeks and you can bet the BEE is happy as can be . Of course the same goes for his FLOWER . Knowing my Sweetheart almost two year's and anybody that thinks waiting is easy , have not done it on our scale . I think this is by far the hardest thing we both have done in our Life . Does that change the Relationship ? You can bet it does , this is a foundation to build a marriage on and keep it strong .

This keeps me thinking of course ?
What my LaoPo will and will not like , ones she arrives in the States ? this is now on my Mind , full time . As I want her to be as comfortable as I can make her under the circumstances . I know my Sweetheart " thinks " she know how it's going to be . All nice and beautiful in America , freedom to go and do as one pleases . But that is far from the thruth , it maybe was like that a long time ago . Things have changed and sadly to say , not alway's for the better .

So , what worries me the most ... for my LaoPo ?
I guess , most would say the Culture change ... or the Language difference ... the People ( not as friendly ) ?
I truely think it's none of those , that Qing will have trouble with . The one and only thing on my Mind is , the difference in the Food we eat in the west . One might not think of this as that important , but that is exactly what has me worried . I know , for me it was easy to adjust to chinese Food . Because , I love to try everything ... well that looks good ... anyway . I had no problem to adjust there . Knowing Qing and her eating habit's somewhat , from my Visit's to China . I can conclude honestly ... she will not be too happy with what we are used to eating . I of course wish that I'm wrong , deep inside me say's no you're not .
Can I not say , us westerner's eat at least 50% of our meals from Fast Food places ... either for Breakfast , Lunch or Dinner . Why else , would those places be alway's packed with People ? My Sweetheart , does NOT eat at any of those places , does not eat Potatoe's or Cheese . Go figure ... how much we consume of these two item's alone ? I don't mind the change to chinese Food after she get's here , but will she ???

This say'd , there is one more thing ... that also needs attention . Driving a Car , which is an obsolute must here in the Los Angeles area . The public trans-portation is just about as good as walking ... aweful to say the least . But , I have two Car's ... so I'm getting my little Truck ( which is easy to drive ) ready for my LaoPo . All she needs is lesson's , easy ... right ?
I dont think so , as our Laws and driving style is like day and night . But my LaoPo is smart and will learn fast , I'm sure of that .

So as far as I'm concerned , it's the Food to worry about .

How things are going , since I'm back Home ?

Well , as I have writen already about what was waiting for me ... when I returned Home from my fourth Trip to be with my Sweetheart . This is what I saw , going into my Garage on Friday night after getting Home tired and beat . I was so ready for a nice Hot shower , especially after such a long flight and long day . But as it happened , I had to turn off the water supply to the Hot water Heater and also the Gas supply to it . There went me nice Hot shower , that turned into a Cold one . Anyway , it's been a week tomorrow and all that happened so far ... was somebody from my Homeowner's Insurance come and take some Photo's . Boy was he surprised , I don't know why ? I told them over the Phone how bad it was . The Water Heater can't be replaced till the base and the three walls on all sides next to the Tank get replace or repaired , only then can they bring in the new one and I can have my Hot water back . This is a 9 year tank , so it's only four years old and under full Waranty of course . The rest my Homeowner Ins. will cover . The thing is , I don't know how long this will drag on now . Obviously the wall's , as one can see has Molt on them already . That goes also for my Master bedroom - walk-in Closet , the little Toilet room next to it and the Washroom . All have damage , as they are the same walls as the ones surrounding my Water Heater . Now , I'm taking shower's over at my Neighbor's house every other day . I don't want to bother Him too much , so it's a cold one inbetween . I can live with this just fine , reminds me of my Camping day's .

One the other hand , the Main break of my sprinkler system ... I fixed on Sunday myself . It was not in the easiest place to repair . Almost under my walkway leading to my front door . I was sore the next day from being on my Knee's and digging almost two feet down . Alway's in an awkward position to be in , where your knee's hurt and the rest of your Leg's fall asleep every 5 - 10 minutes .I guess , I'll be thankful it was not worse .

Tomorrow , the People that remove Molt ... will come to the House and see what to do next . As this stuff needs to be handled with care and with Breathing apparatus's and special bag to put in . I can imagine what's inside those walls by now ? I want it to be done right and have it in writing that it is done so . As it will be on file with my Deed to the House , so if Qing and I ever decide to sell it ... there will be no problem later on that subject .

I certainly will make sure , they will also install under the Tank a metal pan with a drain to the Garage floor . So this will never happen to the walls again .

Back to my Blog of worries !

Oh how nice my last Trip to be with my LaoPo was . How can I not be over- joyed seeing my wonderful Wife again . Especially after her passing the Visa Interview and soon be here with me ... finally . That by itself is making both of us , as happy as one can be .
But , coming Home ... had a few surprises waiting for me . First , I was greeted home ( after my Neighbor's greeting ) to not only a bad leaking Hot Water Heater . Which of course meant , no Hot water til it get's replaced . But the three walls surrounding it in the Garage are all badly damaged to the point it wet the walls in my Washroom and Floor , but also the Masterbedroom walk-in closet and carpet as well . Which has mold on the walls there already . So now it's a big repair to cut out all that , before the Tank can be replaced ... as it's base is also damaged . the good part is , Homeowner's Insurance will cover all the repair work necessary and I have extended warranty on the Heater too . But it's the incovenience that this all brings along with it . I do have to go back to work , so when and how is all this going to be done ? Haven't figured that all out yet , as I got to get someone to come out and make a estimate of the whole thing . So , it was a COLD shower this morning ... after only sleeping for three hour's or less , worrying about this of course . So as I ran some errands in the early morning and was to go have Breakfast with my Neighbor that was watching my House while I was away , I received some more news that I did not really want to hear . The water main to my front sprinkler system sprung a bad leak also , which meant turning the water off completely . So now I'm up and it's passed three in the morning , not being able to sleep over all this . Now , no water at all till this sprinkler thing get's taken care off well today ... to have at least cold water in the house . How we take this for granded until you don't have it anymore ? I guess , it is with everything one needs or is so used to having ... not realizing how important they all are .
I did dug up the water lines by the leak , but have not decided yet to do it myself or have someone do it for me . Not having sleepped but some five hours total since being back does not make for a happy plumber for sure .
I hate to worry my Sweetheart with this , as she will read this ... but this is just part of owning a House . There really is no end of alway's needing something or something going wrong or wearing out . Ahhhh ... what do I do , not to get carried away and cry ... think of my Sweetheart of course and knowing she will be all part of this soon . It's so nice to share everything , including the Headaches . Hahaha .
Is that not right , my LaoPo ?
*** I LOVE YOU ***

A Dream with meaning !

As I will leave tonight 20 min. after midnight to be with my LaoPo again , this was my last night in my own Bed ...before returning .
I like to just copy and paste what I wrote in our Forum , for the ones not able to go there . Please let me know what you make out of this Dream of mine ?


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So , as last night was my last night in my own Bed .. as I'm leaving tonight for the Airport .I thought I share about my pretty restless night and the Dream that I had .I don't really know how or when it started , but what I remember the best ... is , I found myself in Bed next to my late Wife . We even started to make Love ( me knowing that I was married to Qing though ) , but before it got too far ... my late Wife handed me a piece of paper . Most of it was foggy but not the very bottom and it said in big print " I Love You " . Now as I loved this Woman for 30 year's AND knowing I was married again , my Mind started to think ? Here I am in a situation where I need to choose Nancy or Qing ? Mind you , I was still asleep . How can I tell either one ... I must leave you for the other ? At exact that moment I woke up and of course , now there was no choice to make .But , as I know ... every Dream has a meaning behind it .I concider this a message from above , that this Woman ( Nancy ) still loves me and want's the best for me ... even though she is only here in Spirit . This is actually not the first time , since she has passed away ... that I felt her Love for me .It's a great feeling , to go and see my Sweetheart / Wife Qing again , with what I see as Her's and God's blessing .

No need to tell !

I think that I not need to tell anybody , how excited I am ... to be Boarding the Plane to be with my Sweetheart again . Yes ... 98 hour's from the time I write this . Talking to my LaoPo , I can tell she is excited equally as much of course . After all it's been 6 1/2 month's , that's 198 day's without her touch , her smile , her laughter ... her kisses and warm hug's .

Anyway , I am all packed up . Have all my Paper's in order , Qing has gone through the Medical Exam. and all is just the way it should be ... healthy as a Flower can Bee .
Work is done at my Job , now it's time to enjoy my time with the most wonderful Person in my Life and have all the hard work going through all the paperwork ... rewarded .
As most of you know , since the Blogger is blocked in China , I can not post here until I get back . But , I will for sure have many happy moment's to report ... ones I'm back home .

*** I LOVE YOU , QING ... SEE YOU SOON ***

Two busy Day's , shopping ... yeah !!!

Oh ... what would we do without some of those long ( three day ) Weekend's ?
This is special , well you call it here " Labor Day " . But most of the time , that's exactly what one winds up doing ... Labor !

Well , being single .... oooops , I mean alone and married , there is not going to be a Bar-B-Q just for me . No ... too much trouble , too hot outside anyway . So having these three day's of , one week before going back to China ... is great . Got my Packing 90% done . Picking up my Book of paper's from the Lawyer on Thursday and I'm pretty much set to go . Having nothing but my LaoPo on my Mind and how long it takes to get there .

I took this opportunity , Sat. and Today to go shopping . I was going to look for a couple of Gift's still and while I'm in the Store's already , check out ... what I wanted to do for the last couple of month's already . Buy some new Bed sheet's , pillow cover's , pillow safer's and new pillow's of course . The second item , I was looking for was Towel's ( oversized bath towel's ) and wash cloth's
to match . I swear , I learned this from my late Wife . So going to find those two item's , what do I buy first ? Some clothes for me , pant's and shirt's . Feeling good , let's go what we came in for ? Oh yeah ... Sheet's and Towel's .

Well , Saturday ... I came home with eight oversized bath towel's ( different color's ) and matching cloth's . Were on sale too . Next to the bedroom department , found a couple nice ( not cheap ) Sheet set's with two pillow cases . But since I was going to buy four new Pillow's , that meant two more extra cases . You can imagine me walking out of that store , you could barely see who was carrying the Bags . Now having bought all that , now it's time to clean out the Linen closet's ... of old worn out sheet's and towel's and who know's what else is there hidding ? This turn out to be very successful , it looked very nice and neat .
But .... yes the familiar " BUT ' . It looked so nice , I started to think ... while they are on sale , let's get some more . This is what I did this Sunday morning . So , now I have fourteen towel's , cloth's , four complete set's of beautiful Sheet's and of course all with two extra pillow cases . But ... haha , I did not throw all the old sheet's and towel's out the door , not the ones that were still in good condition ... I washed . That alone was four fullsized load's , of washing , drying and folding and putting them with the new . Oh ... sometime inbetween all that , I dusted , waxed all the Master Bedroom Furniture , vacuumed the Carpet too . To relax after all that , I went outside and cut all my Grass and checked and repaired sprinkler's , making sure they all work properly when I leave .

Anybody , know what I'm going to do tomorrow ? If anybody say's the word Work , I will personally come over and kick your Butt .

This is how I relax , write into my Blog . Looking at the Clock and counting the Hour's to go , till I get to the Airport . In other word's , nice thought's of my Sweetheart waiting for me ( she said ... she wont be late ) to receive me back into each other's Arms .
It's like a Dream , but the best part about it ... it's REAL .

Ahhh .... looking forward to be at that very spot again .

Coming into Shanghai , this will be my fourth time now .

Now , why does it seem like it's the first time each and every time ... I meet my Sweetheart at Pu Dong ? I mean , except that we are married now , but there is alway's the feeling of something new .

This time it has been the longest that we have been apart , not counting my 54 previous year's . A long six and a half month's . I hope I still remember what she looks like ? I might have to check the Lady , that is going to jump up welcoming me , and see her ID Card .

So , it's two weeks away ... that I will be with my Qing and my new Family again . Not to forget , the City that I love for two reason's ... first , yeah ... because Qing was born there ... second , because of it's beauty and it's friendly People and the Food of course . Oh .. I know , that is more than two ! Let's say , there are hundred reason's .

Been counting the month's , week's ... now it's time to count the hour's , before lift -off .

Today , just some Photo's from near my Home .

This has been a wonderful Weekend , what getting ready for my Flight to be with my LaoPo in two weeks time concerns .

But it also was a frightening few day's for many People having Homes in the Mountains . Where I'm glad I don't and can feel a lot safer , from such happening's .

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First Photo is right from the Driveway of my House .

The second and third are from the Shopping Center , about a mile from my House .

Pretty scary , to think the day after this Fire had grown to twice the size . But it moved to the East away from Palmdale towards Victoville and Barstow .

You can imagine the Air quality was pretty bad and everytime I came out of a Store , my Car was covered with Ash . Having 100 degree's temp . already and a Fire that size near you , made it for a couple of " HOT " day's .

Am I fast or what ?

Sometimes , I really surprise myself ? Two day's of running around , getting things and some shopping done . I can now sit and enjoy the rest of the afternoon , wonder ... no that is the wrong word . I'm counting the day's on my Calendar , when I'm at the Airport and getting on a Plane to take me to my Sweetheart again . So seeing two suitcases sitting on my guest Bed and seeing them 75 % filled up already . Packed nice and neat ... yes , I am a neat Person . Everything folded perfectly as can be , so not to arrive all wrinkled . I hate wrinkled clothes , you would not see me going out of the house wearing that . I don't Iron my socks or underwear , but what shows ... has to be wrinkle-free . At least while I leave the Hotel , after that is out of my Control . That is wear and tear , so to speak . hahaha
So here , a little over two weeks left and my Suitcases are almost packed . It is a good feeling though , to have that just about out of the way . Matter of fact , my Briefcase with all the Paperwork ( proof/receipt's ) for the Consulate ... I also have ready to go .
Come to think of it ? I was never that kind of Person before . Alway's waiting for the last minute to do things . I think I got that part from my late Wife and just being so happy with my new LaoPo , it really seems like Magic ... how one get's motivated by happy News and knowing soon to be together with your Wife again . Awesome , the power of Love !!

This is a special Post , for a special Person !

When I first found my Sweetheart , little did I know ... that she came with something special as well ? I know , this Person is very special to my LaoPo and many countless other's ... I'm sure ?



It's none other then ... Qing's brother Ming !



















As I stepped of that Airplane at Shanghai's Pu Dong International Airport , I knew
.... not only have I found the most loving , gorgeous , smart , yes ... and tall Lady , most Man would be very proud of having her for a Wife . But that I realized soon , first ... Qing's Sister in-law's Cousin ( Xu-Xin ) that had the pleasure of picking me up . But , he got to use Qing's brother's Car to do it with . This is where I saw , how special He was ... or should I have guessed that I had something to do with it also . I knew , when first coming to China . I had won Qing's parent's heart already and had not much to worry , about being liked or disliked ? As my Trip unfolded , I not only was brought to the Hotel where I was staying . But ... it's like , the brother's Car and Cousin as driver were at my disposel as long I was staying ( eleven day's ) . Now , talk about shock or should I say better ... surprised ? I have never in my 55 year's been treated like that from anybody and all this starting without ever having met Ming face to face . Which of course ... well you guessed it , he took us all out for Dinner the next day . I have never been so welcome ( except by my LaoPo of course ) at home , let alone in for me ... a strange Country . Anyway , this was not the only time though , same with my other Trip's . I have really gained with my Wife , wonderful Parent's , brother , sister in-law and many Uncle's and Aunt's from both sides of the Family .
I mean in ones Lifetime , there are Dreams and then ... there are " DREAM"S " that come true . This is by a long shot the latter of the two .
There is more of course , this really top's it all . This is why I write in his honour today , because He went out of his way again for us both . Hence Qing and I are going to GuangZhou for the interview , he has called an old Classmate of his ... that happen's to live there . Asking him of not only picking Qing and myself up from the Airport down there , but also make reservation's at a Hotel for us .
It made me teary-eyed , reading this today . Running many errands , because I have only three weekends left before going to the Airport again . So coming home a little tired and having to fight all the Ash from a nearby Fire in the Mountain's , was not the best of time to be outside anyway . But to see my LaoPo's letter and that good news , was very welcome at least .

All said and done , I can only say ... how grateful and apprecative I am toward's Qing's brother and her whole Family .

*** THANK YOU SO MUCH ***

The sound of a Person on the other end ?

As I am happy as can BEE . My Flower is even more excited than that . Talking to my LaoPo today , how can I tell or put it into word's , what / how she feels at this moment ? Excited .... YES ! Nervous .... YES of course ! Happy .... you bet !!!

A year of waiting is coming to an End and why should she feel any different ?

It really feels like , when we were waiting to meet for the first time . All being new ... uncertain ... not knowing what to expect in the coming day's ?
It really is something you look forward to , but with caution ... because it's one Man/Woman that will decide your Future in a way .
So we do not want to be TOO over-confident , before it is " Official " the Visa is being issued for my Sweetheart .

Now , it's time to pray . That God , that joined us together will also do this for us . Amen .

My Happy level just hit 90 % !

Qing and I just received our Interview date for Qing's Visa .
It will be on the 23rd. Sept. in GuangZhou . I will fly to Shanghai on the 16th , make arrangment's for two to GuangZhou from there . I will stay till the 01st Oct. most likely .
This is what we been waiting for almost one year . Now ... one more Hurdle to jump ( the interviewer ) and all is open for Qing coming to my ( OUR ) Home .
Talking about being excited , we are both jumping for Joy .

Oh ... I'm so tired of waiting for everything !

It seems, there is nothing that I don't have to wait for . As today was Chinese Valentine here, and this morning at Work ... I check my Inbox and there is my Sweetheart's letter . Filled with her LOVE as alway's . But this day was special , so she included a Chinese Song
" Moon Stands for my Heart " .
Which is the chinese version ... and let me tell you , I had tears in my Eyes . Which by the way were closed , so I could imagine it was my LaoPo singing it . I have never listened to a Song , where I could really feel the Love from my Wife just pour all over me . I wish , I knew how to transfer this Song into my Blog , but I don't . I try'd to Copy and bring it here , but no luck .
Going back to the Title of this Post . So I received this, this morning and at Work ? Guess what ? No speaker's ! So I could read the Letter , but not play the Song . That is why I'm so tired of alway's having to wait . Not till I got home could I listen to it and of course the waiting was all but forgotten real quick . Haha

Ahhh ... to be in LOVE , It feels so good ... but it hurts so bad .

Well , being apart that is !!!

Chinese Valentine today . In China at least . 26th Aug. !

Chinese Valentine !!!

How wonderful; us married to a chinese Woman, get to celebrate this special Sweeetheart Day ... twice .

As I just finished talking half-way around the World, to none other than my beautiful wife Qing. Boy, it is sure nice to hear her voice ... like she is right next door. Haven't been with her for over six month's, this is as close to having her here with me . Of course, seeing her next to me with my Eyes and telling her in Person ... how much I love her ... can not be equaled any other way .

Started to tell her happy Valentine's day , she was surprised that I had remembered . After all , one really has to get used to the chinese Calendar and I'm still confused as much ... as I've alway's been ? Because it changes every year and that is hard to keep up with it all, when your not familiar with them for a long time . I need a chinese Calendar with all the special day's printed on them . By the time I will master them , I most likely will have forgotten the Western Holiday's . Haha

I wish everyone a happy Valentine's day and may you all have someone to share it with .

To the Million of People waiting for my Book !

Hey ... what, do I hear everybody laughing ?

I did did what I said I would do today . That is to finish my first Chapter . Plus I shortened my Book by one Chapter , down to thirteen . I even changed the name of the Book , to " Two Encounter's with Truelove " .
I thought I post the Chapter's here , for your pleasure and maybe some Opinion's ( only the good ones ) . The rest I will toss into the ... well , my Paper shredder .
So here they are : " Two Encounter's with " Truelove " .

Chapter ONE : A loving Marriage comes to an End, due to a terminal Illness. ( done ; 30 pages and 7600 words )
Chapter TWO : Last six month's of my Wife's Life.
Chapter THREE : The mourning after and how to adjust to a new Life alone.
Chapter FOUR : How all this brought me closer to God and helped me to move on .
Chapter FIVE : 12 Girls Band Band , and deciding to go to Shanghai for our 30th Anniversary.
Chapter SIX : Meeting my " Sister's " Min and Lily at Chnlove.com.
Chapter SEVEN : First contact with Qing and the procress that followed.
Chapter EIGHT : Our Wedding on 08-08-08 with Family and Friends.
Chapter NINE : Third Trip , that includes Beijing and Visiting with Qing's Uncle , Aunt and two Cousin's.
Chapter TEN : Coming Home , to only wait again for the fourth time.
Chapter ELEVEN : My fourth Trip , to be with my Wife (Qing) and the Visa Interview in GuangZhou.
Chapter TWELVE : Preparing Qing to come to America.
Chapter THIRTEEN : Closing word's

Well , are you all still hear ?
I bet the last one sounded the best .... ahhhh almost .. almost done reading this nonsence .

No seriously ; I have many People ( over a hundred ) for sure , that can not wait for it to come out in Bookform . But hence I'm patient enough , being away from my Sweetheart all that time . I'm sure all of you can also wait a few month's ... maybe a year , right ?

Now , I need some rest . Writing seven full pages is not an easy task , concidering this Microsoft Office Word is not alway's pleased with what you write . Hahaha

Party , good excuse to get a break from writing . Ha-ha

This weekend is my Uncle's birthday Party , also my Friend's ... that came to my Wedding in Shanghai . So , yes ... need to save my Energy and not write so much , ha-ha .

As I'm now 23 pages into my Book , it is telling my Story ... just as I have intented for it to be . I will continue on Sunday , and try to make it to 30 at least . It is amazing ; when you start writing , how everything comes back to Mind ? Every little detail of all the Test's my late Wife went through and the Pain that we both had to endure , knowing your Spouse is not going to be with you much longer . I can honestly say , this part was written with tears running down my Face .
Now I'm at the point where it starts with the Chemo and the Radiation treatment's , after that it on to Chapter two .

It really makes me proud , to tell how brave my Nancy was ... through all this . I will never forget !!!

But as you might know , this is also the Story of ... how Qing and I met . How LOVE can send you on the way to find the next True Love , after the first one comes to an unexpected end . I think Nancy is happy for me ?

I alway's had LOVE for only one Woman , now it's Qing that I will give it all to , because ... she is now my most important PART in my Life .

Well , I'm back here again , instead with my Book .

Yes , I'm back with my Blog ones more . As I was ready to continue on my Book ; which is now 20 pages in and to the point , where a Phone call changed our Life's for ever . The call , that nobody ever wants to listen to . That your Spouse has Cancer , not only that , but an " 8 " on a scale of " 10 " is not a good sign at all . Along with the message , you might have about six months to Live .
I knew , that writing this Book would bring me back to those horrific moment's in my Life . But , I need to tell how brave my late Wife was and how all this eventually changed my Life for the better ... finding my Qing .

So to continue my story , I needed to check all the Medical records that I still have . It is a Book in itself , at least two inches thick . I could look at all these Bills that ( thanks God ) Medicare and Blue Cross payed for ( some 1/4 million Dollars for sure ) and get all shocked up . What it really shows me ... is how BRAVE my Nancy was , going through all what she went through , without really complaining too much about anything . Just going from one Appointment to the next and to the next .

Here she always said , she was a lousy Patient . I totally disagree with her there . Because I know , that I would have made a bad Patient , no way that I would have been that brave going through all this happening on almost daily bases . I owe her this much , just to tell everybody reading my Story ( if it ever get's Published ) what a great and brave Woman she really was . To the point , where I believe the Lord and her send me on this Journey to find my now wife Qing . All out of Love for me , that she wanted me to be taken care off . That was one of her biggest worries , before she passed away . She did not tell me that , but to her favorite Nurse ... the one she knew she could trust ( Virgina ) that work's for Vitas Hospice .

I must get over this part and I will make it , but it will not be easy . But at least my Book will have a happy ending , that will be a lot more enjoyable to write about .
I do have to make it through Chapter two also ...
" The last six months with my Nancy "

Love shown by "ACTION" not "WORDS" !

As you know , yesterday I could not find my Promise Letter to my wife Qing . I was going to look for it today , knowing that I had a Copy somewhere .
This morning , after checking my Inbox for anything that came in while I was asleep . Sure enough , my Sweetheart had send me one . Opened it up , what I saw ... showed ... how much this Woman really Loves me . Ha-ha , almost as much as I love her ? Serious though , she had send me a copy of the Letter ( the Original that I left with her the last time , I was with her ) . She had read my Blog , without asking for it , there it was .THAT'S LOVE WITHOUT WORD'S ... LETTING ACTION SPEAK FOR ITSELF . The funny thing , this morning ... as I also checked on the Blog's that I follow . Mike ( mpo ) added to his Blog . Pointing out just about this very same subject , " What is Love " .
Do I need to say more ?
*** TTT loves BBB and BBB loves TTT ***
Promise letter to my Tai Tai,at our Wedding on 8 AUGUST 2008

To my Tai Tai,

Our Story begins in the Fall of 2007,25th of November to be exact.

You took a very sad Man who has lost his Wife of 30 years and put a smile back on my face,plus Hope into my heart that it was possible to have a happy and wonderful Life again.

Our Love blossomed over the month's there after,but our Love was tested not only by Distance,but also by Time.Not just ones but twice.

We both know Fate has brought us together,our special Love will keep us together in the future where ever it will take us.

My Tai Tai, I will always cherish this "TRUE LOVE" we have shared for sometime now.We have planted the seed of Marriage,now we must Nurture it's growth.

To be finally standing here next to my beautiful Bride on this Our special day in front of our Family's and Friend's that i promise to you Sweetheart to be the best Husband i can be,promise to Love and Care for you,respect you for the wonderful Person that you are,Always.

My Tai Tai,you make Me the happiest Man in Shanghai right now,not only because receiving you as my Wife,but also making Me a Father for TianChi and not to forget a member of your loving Family.

The Palmdale BEE has truly found it's Shanghai FLOWER !!
***I LOVE YOU,my Tai Tai***

888 THANK YOU MY LAO PO 888

Some more of my Peom's .

Hope you are not bored , by them so far ? If , I can make it through all this waiting period . Over and over again , I see no reason for you Guy's not being able to sweat out my Poem's . Ha-ha-ha

Well actually , I want to post both of our Promise Letter's to each other at the Wedding ceremony . Starting with Qing's to Me .

My promise letter

At this special moment I am the happiest bride in this world. I am very appreciated that you ,so many nice people come to take part in Arnold and Cher’s wedding party.Thanks a lot !!!!!!!!

First ,Thanks for the fate’s arrangement to make Arnold and me to meet each other from two different country .We have known for almost one year. I found that my husband Arnold ,you are the sunny,sincere and honest man. I am very lucky to find a husband who has the high quality ,love the families and chinese culture so much and love me so much .Thanks !

Evey time when I received the beautiful flower and lovely card which you sent to me from Amercia .this love has traveled to thousands of miles to arrive Shanghai ,China.
When I have seen you wear the shirt which wrote my name and the character I LOVE YOU,I can feel the sincere love from bottom of your heart .
When I received the crystal cube which wrote the two hearts meet on the 09th May, that actually we got married at the registry.I know that my heart belongs to you ., your LOVE has melt my heart and I believe that we could be the happiest couple in the world . When I read your poems from you ,I am touched by your wonderful words.
When you drove the car which is far from home in order to make the snow man for me ,my heart is really shocked . I could feel your deep love to me too .i am thinking of you so much .

My dearest Arnold ,thanks for all what you do for me and your flower has

touched by you so much .i believe that you are the best husband in the world for me .
you ,Arnold is the best gift for me from the God .

Today at our wedding I promise to you,like I said before,I cherish this TRUE LOVE just like I cherish my life. I will devote all myself to my husband,children and familes . I will be your good wife share the TRUE LOVE at each other’s side for the rest of our life, never separate till the end of the life.
Our LOVE just like the IVY you planted, we need to water it and protect it well together. It will be flourishing and never fade.i believe that !

The flag BEE HAPPY is always flying in the wind. The Shanghai flower loves her Bee forever.

Thanks a lot ! thanks !

Your Shanghai flower:

Love to read this over and over !

Here is mine , that got lost at the ceremony . So I had to wing it , so to speak .

I don't know ? Why is it , when it comes to mine ... I can never find it ? Now I'm not sure if I ever downloaded it to my Computer ? I know I have copies somewhere , just need to find them . Sorry ... really .

So let me show you three more Poem's instead . Yeah !!!