Today , just some Photo's from near my Home .

This has been a wonderful Weekend , what getting ready for my Flight to be with my LaoPo in two weeks time concerns .

But it also was a frightening few day's for many People having Homes in the Mountains . Where I'm glad I don't and can feel a lot safer , from such happening's .

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First Photo is right from the Driveway of my House .

The second and third are from the Shopping Center , about a mile from my House .

Pretty scary , to think the day after this Fire had grown to twice the size . But it moved to the East away from Palmdale towards Victoville and Barstow .

You can imagine the Air quality was pretty bad and everytime I came out of a Store , my Car was covered with Ash . Having 100 degree's temp . already and a Fire that size near you , made it for a couple of " HOT " day's .

Am I fast or what ?

Sometimes , I really surprise myself ? Two day's of running around , getting things and some shopping done . I can now sit and enjoy the rest of the afternoon , wonder ... no that is the wrong word . I'm counting the day's on my Calendar , when I'm at the Airport and getting on a Plane to take me to my Sweetheart again . So seeing two suitcases sitting on my guest Bed and seeing them 75 % filled up already . Packed nice and neat ... yes , I am a neat Person . Everything folded perfectly as can be , so not to arrive all wrinkled . I hate wrinkled clothes , you would not see me going out of the house wearing that . I don't Iron my socks or underwear , but what shows ... has to be wrinkle-free . At least while I leave the Hotel , after that is out of my Control . That is wear and tear , so to speak . hahaha
So here , a little over two weeks left and my Suitcases are almost packed . It is a good feeling though , to have that just about out of the way . Matter of fact , my Briefcase with all the Paperwork ( proof/receipt's ) for the Consulate ... I also have ready to go .
Come to think of it ? I was never that kind of Person before . Alway's waiting for the last minute to do things . I think I got that part from my late Wife and just being so happy with my new LaoPo , it really seems like Magic ... how one get's motivated by happy News and knowing soon to be together with your Wife again . Awesome , the power of Love !!

This is a special Post , for a special Person !

When I first found my Sweetheart , little did I know ... that she came with something special as well ? I know , this Person is very special to my LaoPo and many countless other's ... I'm sure ?



It's none other then ... Qing's brother Ming !



















As I stepped of that Airplane at Shanghai's Pu Dong International Airport , I knew
.... not only have I found the most loving , gorgeous , smart , yes ... and tall Lady , most Man would be very proud of having her for a Wife . But that I realized soon , first ... Qing's Sister in-law's Cousin ( Xu-Xin ) that had the pleasure of picking me up . But , he got to use Qing's brother's Car to do it with . This is where I saw , how special He was ... or should I have guessed that I had something to do with it also . I knew , when first coming to China . I had won Qing's parent's heart already and had not much to worry , about being liked or disliked ? As my Trip unfolded , I not only was brought to the Hotel where I was staying . But ... it's like , the brother's Car and Cousin as driver were at my disposel as long I was staying ( eleven day's ) . Now , talk about shock or should I say better ... surprised ? I have never in my 55 year's been treated like that from anybody and all this starting without ever having met Ming face to face . Which of course ... well you guessed it , he took us all out for Dinner the next day . I have never been so welcome ( except by my LaoPo of course ) at home , let alone in for me ... a strange Country . Anyway , this was not the only time though , same with my other Trip's . I have really gained with my Wife , wonderful Parent's , brother , sister in-law and many Uncle's and Aunt's from both sides of the Family .
I mean in ones Lifetime , there are Dreams and then ... there are " DREAM"S " that come true . This is by a long shot the latter of the two .
There is more of course , this really top's it all . This is why I write in his honour today , because He went out of his way again for us both . Hence Qing and I are going to GuangZhou for the interview , he has called an old Classmate of his ... that happen's to live there . Asking him of not only picking Qing and myself up from the Airport down there , but also make reservation's at a Hotel for us .
It made me teary-eyed , reading this today . Running many errands , because I have only three weekends left before going to the Airport again . So coming home a little tired and having to fight all the Ash from a nearby Fire in the Mountain's , was not the best of time to be outside anyway . But to see my LaoPo's letter and that good news , was very welcome at least .

All said and done , I can only say ... how grateful and apprecative I am toward's Qing's brother and her whole Family .

*** THANK YOU SO MUCH ***

The sound of a Person on the other end ?

As I am happy as can BEE . My Flower is even more excited than that . Talking to my LaoPo today , how can I tell or put it into word's , what / how she feels at this moment ? Excited .... YES ! Nervous .... YES of course ! Happy .... you bet !!!

A year of waiting is coming to an End and why should she feel any different ?

It really feels like , when we were waiting to meet for the first time . All being new ... uncertain ... not knowing what to expect in the coming day's ?
It really is something you look forward to , but with caution ... because it's one Man/Woman that will decide your Future in a way .
So we do not want to be TOO over-confident , before it is " Official " the Visa is being issued for my Sweetheart .

Now , it's time to pray . That God , that joined us together will also do this for us . Amen .

My Happy level just hit 90 % !

Qing and I just received our Interview date for Qing's Visa .
It will be on the 23rd. Sept. in GuangZhou . I will fly to Shanghai on the 16th , make arrangment's for two to GuangZhou from there . I will stay till the 01st Oct. most likely .
This is what we been waiting for almost one year . Now ... one more Hurdle to jump ( the interviewer ) and all is open for Qing coming to my ( OUR ) Home .
Talking about being excited , we are both jumping for Joy .

Oh ... I'm so tired of waiting for everything !

It seems, there is nothing that I don't have to wait for . As today was Chinese Valentine here, and this morning at Work ... I check my Inbox and there is my Sweetheart's letter . Filled with her LOVE as alway's . But this day was special , so she included a Chinese Song
" Moon Stands for my Heart " .
Which is the chinese version ... and let me tell you , I had tears in my Eyes . Which by the way were closed , so I could imagine it was my LaoPo singing it . I have never listened to a Song , where I could really feel the Love from my Wife just pour all over me . I wish , I knew how to transfer this Song into my Blog , but I don't . I try'd to Copy and bring it here , but no luck .
Going back to the Title of this Post . So I received this, this morning and at Work ? Guess what ? No speaker's ! So I could read the Letter , but not play the Song . That is why I'm so tired of alway's having to wait . Not till I got home could I listen to it and of course the waiting was all but forgotten real quick . Haha

Ahhh ... to be in LOVE , It feels so good ... but it hurts so bad .

Well , being apart that is !!!

Chinese Valentine today . In China at least . 26th Aug. !

Chinese Valentine !!!

How wonderful; us married to a chinese Woman, get to celebrate this special Sweeetheart Day ... twice .

As I just finished talking half-way around the World, to none other than my beautiful wife Qing. Boy, it is sure nice to hear her voice ... like she is right next door. Haven't been with her for over six month's, this is as close to having her here with me . Of course, seeing her next to me with my Eyes and telling her in Person ... how much I love her ... can not be equaled any other way .

Started to tell her happy Valentine's day , she was surprised that I had remembered . After all , one really has to get used to the chinese Calendar and I'm still confused as much ... as I've alway's been ? Because it changes every year and that is hard to keep up with it all, when your not familiar with them for a long time . I need a chinese Calendar with all the special day's printed on them . By the time I will master them , I most likely will have forgotten the Western Holiday's . Haha

I wish everyone a happy Valentine's day and may you all have someone to share it with .

To the Million of People waiting for my Book !

Hey ... what, do I hear everybody laughing ?

I did did what I said I would do today . That is to finish my first Chapter . Plus I shortened my Book by one Chapter , down to thirteen . I even changed the name of the Book , to " Two Encounter's with Truelove " .
I thought I post the Chapter's here , for your pleasure and maybe some Opinion's ( only the good ones ) . The rest I will toss into the ... well , my Paper shredder .
So here they are : " Two Encounter's with " Truelove " .

Chapter ONE : A loving Marriage comes to an End, due to a terminal Illness. ( done ; 30 pages and 7600 words )
Chapter TWO : Last six month's of my Wife's Life.
Chapter THREE : The mourning after and how to adjust to a new Life alone.
Chapter FOUR : How all this brought me closer to God and helped me to move on .
Chapter FIVE : 12 Girls Band Band , and deciding to go to Shanghai for our 30th Anniversary.
Chapter SIX : Meeting my " Sister's " Min and Lily at Chnlove.com.
Chapter SEVEN : First contact with Qing and the procress that followed.
Chapter EIGHT : Our Wedding on 08-08-08 with Family and Friends.
Chapter NINE : Third Trip , that includes Beijing and Visiting with Qing's Uncle , Aunt and two Cousin's.
Chapter TEN : Coming Home , to only wait again for the fourth time.
Chapter ELEVEN : My fourth Trip , to be with my Wife (Qing) and the Visa Interview in GuangZhou.
Chapter TWELVE : Preparing Qing to come to America.
Chapter THIRTEEN : Closing word's

Well , are you all still hear ?
I bet the last one sounded the best .... ahhhh almost .. almost done reading this nonsence .

No seriously ; I have many People ( over a hundred ) for sure , that can not wait for it to come out in Bookform . But hence I'm patient enough , being away from my Sweetheart all that time . I'm sure all of you can also wait a few month's ... maybe a year , right ?

Now , I need some rest . Writing seven full pages is not an easy task , concidering this Microsoft Office Word is not alway's pleased with what you write . Hahaha

Party , good excuse to get a break from writing . Ha-ha

This weekend is my Uncle's birthday Party , also my Friend's ... that came to my Wedding in Shanghai . So , yes ... need to save my Energy and not write so much , ha-ha .

As I'm now 23 pages into my Book , it is telling my Story ... just as I have intented for it to be . I will continue on Sunday , and try to make it to 30 at least . It is amazing ; when you start writing , how everything comes back to Mind ? Every little detail of all the Test's my late Wife went through and the Pain that we both had to endure , knowing your Spouse is not going to be with you much longer . I can honestly say , this part was written with tears running down my Face .
Now I'm at the point where it starts with the Chemo and the Radiation treatment's , after that it on to Chapter two .

It really makes me proud , to tell how brave my Nancy was ... through all this . I will never forget !!!

But as you might know , this is also the Story of ... how Qing and I met . How LOVE can send you on the way to find the next True Love , after the first one comes to an unexpected end . I think Nancy is happy for me ?

I alway's had LOVE for only one Woman , now it's Qing that I will give it all to , because ... she is now my most important PART in my Life .

Well , I'm back here again , instead with my Book .

Yes , I'm back with my Blog ones more . As I was ready to continue on my Book ; which is now 20 pages in and to the point , where a Phone call changed our Life's for ever . The call , that nobody ever wants to listen to . That your Spouse has Cancer , not only that , but an " 8 " on a scale of " 10 " is not a good sign at all . Along with the message , you might have about six months to Live .
I knew , that writing this Book would bring me back to those horrific moment's in my Life . But , I need to tell how brave my late Wife was and how all this eventually changed my Life for the better ... finding my Qing .

So to continue my story , I needed to check all the Medical records that I still have . It is a Book in itself , at least two inches thick . I could look at all these Bills that ( thanks God ) Medicare and Blue Cross payed for ( some 1/4 million Dollars for sure ) and get all shocked up . What it really shows me ... is how BRAVE my Nancy was , going through all what she went through , without really complaining too much about anything . Just going from one Appointment to the next and to the next .

Here she always said , she was a lousy Patient . I totally disagree with her there . Because I know , that I would have made a bad Patient , no way that I would have been that brave going through all this happening on almost daily bases . I owe her this much , just to tell everybody reading my Story ( if it ever get's Published ) what a great and brave Woman she really was . To the point , where I believe the Lord and her send me on this Journey to find my now wife Qing . All out of Love for me , that she wanted me to be taken care off . That was one of her biggest worries , before she passed away . She did not tell me that , but to her favorite Nurse ... the one she knew she could trust ( Virgina ) that work's for Vitas Hospice .

I must get over this part and I will make it , but it will not be easy . But at least my Book will have a happy ending , that will be a lot more enjoyable to write about .
I do have to make it through Chapter two also ...
" The last six months with my Nancy "

Love shown by "ACTION" not "WORDS" !

As you know , yesterday I could not find my Promise Letter to my wife Qing . I was going to look for it today , knowing that I had a Copy somewhere .
This morning , after checking my Inbox for anything that came in while I was asleep . Sure enough , my Sweetheart had send me one . Opened it up , what I saw ... showed ... how much this Woman really Loves me . Ha-ha , almost as much as I love her ? Serious though , she had send me a copy of the Letter ( the Original that I left with her the last time , I was with her ) . She had read my Blog , without asking for it , there it was .THAT'S LOVE WITHOUT WORD'S ... LETTING ACTION SPEAK FOR ITSELF . The funny thing , this morning ... as I also checked on the Blog's that I follow . Mike ( mpo ) added to his Blog . Pointing out just about this very same subject , " What is Love " .
Do I need to say more ?
*** TTT loves BBB and BBB loves TTT ***
Promise letter to my Tai Tai,at our Wedding on 8 AUGUST 2008

To my Tai Tai,

Our Story begins in the Fall of 2007,25th of November to be exact.

You took a very sad Man who has lost his Wife of 30 years and put a smile back on my face,plus Hope into my heart that it was possible to have a happy and wonderful Life again.

Our Love blossomed over the month's there after,but our Love was tested not only by Distance,but also by Time.Not just ones but twice.

We both know Fate has brought us together,our special Love will keep us together in the future where ever it will take us.

My Tai Tai, I will always cherish this "TRUE LOVE" we have shared for sometime now.We have planted the seed of Marriage,now we must Nurture it's growth.

To be finally standing here next to my beautiful Bride on this Our special day in front of our Family's and Friend's that i promise to you Sweetheart to be the best Husband i can be,promise to Love and Care for you,respect you for the wonderful Person that you are,Always.

My Tai Tai,you make Me the happiest Man in Shanghai right now,not only because receiving you as my Wife,but also making Me a Father for TianChi and not to forget a member of your loving Family.

The Palmdale BEE has truly found it's Shanghai FLOWER !!
***I LOVE YOU,my Tai Tai***

888 THANK YOU MY LAO PO 888

Some more of my Peom's .

Hope you are not bored , by them so far ? If , I can make it through all this waiting period . Over and over again , I see no reason for you Guy's not being able to sweat out my Poem's . Ha-ha-ha

Well actually , I want to post both of our Promise Letter's to each other at the Wedding ceremony . Starting with Qing's to Me .

My promise letter

At this special moment I am the happiest bride in this world. I am very appreciated that you ,so many nice people come to take part in Arnold and Cher’s wedding party.Thanks a lot !!!!!!!!

First ,Thanks for the fate’s arrangement to make Arnold and me to meet each other from two different country .We have known for almost one year. I found that my husband Arnold ,you are the sunny,sincere and honest man. I am very lucky to find a husband who has the high quality ,love the families and chinese culture so much and love me so much .Thanks !

Evey time when I received the beautiful flower and lovely card which you sent to me from Amercia .this love has traveled to thousands of miles to arrive Shanghai ,China.
When I have seen you wear the shirt which wrote my name and the character I LOVE YOU,I can feel the sincere love from bottom of your heart .
When I received the crystal cube which wrote the two hearts meet on the 09th May, that actually we got married at the registry.I know that my heart belongs to you ., your LOVE has melt my heart and I believe that we could be the happiest couple in the world . When I read your poems from you ,I am touched by your wonderful words.
When you drove the car which is far from home in order to make the snow man for me ,my heart is really shocked . I could feel your deep love to me too .i am thinking of you so much .

My dearest Arnold ,thanks for all what you do for me and your flower has

touched by you so much .i believe that you are the best husband in the world for me .
you ,Arnold is the best gift for me from the God .

Today at our wedding I promise to you,like I said before,I cherish this TRUE LOVE just like I cherish my life. I will devote all myself to my husband,children and familes . I will be your good wife share the TRUE LOVE at each other’s side for the rest of our life, never separate till the end of the life.
Our LOVE just like the IVY you planted, we need to water it and protect it well together. It will be flourishing and never fade.i believe that !

The flag BEE HAPPY is always flying in the wind. The Shanghai flower loves her Bee forever.

Thanks a lot ! thanks !

Your Shanghai flower:

Love to read this over and over !

Here is mine , that got lost at the ceremony . So I had to wing it , so to speak .

I don't know ? Why is it , when it comes to mine ... I can never find it ? Now I'm not sure if I ever downloaded it to my Computer ? I know I have copies somewhere , just need to find them . Sorry ... really .

So let me show you three more Poem's instead . Yeah !!!

A new Author is Born !

Yes... of course, I'm talking about myself here.
I wish for that to happen of course. Who wouldn't? I must say, this is actually very exciting... but it takes many hour's of concentration and remembering the Past.
I know about the Future already, going to be together with my LaoPo soon, never to be seperated again.
Getting older, it's the Past... that one has trouble with. You know what they say? Loose your Hair, your Eyesight, your Hearing and... well let's not talk about that . Ha-ha

So, when I'm busy writing a Book, then why am I here in my Blog? It's because I don't like my Follower's having to wait too long for something new. I'm sooo nice, just like my Sweetheart is. No... actually, I'm taking a break today from my Book. I have ten (10) pages by now, done and very neat and correct in my Folder. On nothing less, than purple paper (Qing's favorite color).
Hey? Why do you think I'm writing in that color?

Anyhow, hence I'm spending so many hour's... after work, showering and eating... writing too. My Sweetheart is worried, that I am not taking good care of myself and don't get enough sleep. Bless her Heart, she does alway's want the best for me. I thought as a Bonus, I post my LaoPo's last letter. After I had told her, that "I" will write the Book myself, instead finding a Writer.

This is Qing's reply.

Nong hao,Lao Gong. Thanks for your letter.I am really touched by you that you start to write our book by yourself.You know i don't want to see you overwork for it as after a long time work you need to have good rest and take care of yourself.I know we could share our happiness with others,but it is not important the book for sale.The most important thing is the Shanghai Flower and Bee want to be together and share the happiness of the wonderful life as long as possible.So we will continue to write our LOVE story together with our life ***I LOVE YOU AND FOREVER*** It just make me feel you are so lovely,my little Xian Sheng(in my eyes that you are). Every member of our family all Love you so much and want to see you again in SH.
***YOUR NICE LAO PO***

How I wish to be by her side again. It is after all, going on seven month's already. The last time I been with her. We are both positive, that we will get the Interview date by next month. I will be on the first Plane out... to Shanghai. Hopefully, after that, I get to pick her up at the Airport here in Los Angeles for a change. What a wonderful day, that will be, for both of us.

What better day , then today ?

As this is Qing's and my special day , I thought ... no actually I started to write my Book myself . Looking it all over , the way I have each step on note paper's , it is now up to me to sit down and ... write and write some more . As of now , I finsihed the Dedication of my Book and the Acknowledgment 's , of all that been part of it and helped me go throught this painful part and joyous part of my Life .
I have come up with about 13 to 14 Chapter's . Now it's one at a time I guess , with each taking a good week or two to put on Paper . Many long night's and many Glasses of Wine to bring out the Spirit . Haha

888 Happy Anniversary my LaoPo 888

May the Blue Roses , retain their Mystery and keep blooming till I will be with my Sweetheart again .

*** ICH LIEBE DICH ***

Today , three more Poem's of mine .

As you can see ... by the date , this was right after I got back from my first Trip to be with my Sweetheart and now Wife ... Qing .

As this was the most wonderful experience in my Life , to have found and fall'in in Love ... with the most precious and gorgeous Woman on the " Other Side " of the Earth .

As we Dream , we do realize ... that some of them actually do come true . If one believe's that it can happen and follow's it's Path .

This was a " Special " Poem , I wrote just for the Wedding Ceremony on 08 of Aug . '08 . The wedding Company was nice enough to add the Photo of us , from the first Visit ... from Yu Yuan Garden's ( Seng Wang Miao ) . One Photo , that show's the Love flowing between us . Well , at least we can .

A look back , me being a Poet ? Hehe

I like to take you back , to where I started to write Poem's . Something that I have never done before , living with my late Wife " Nancy " .

So who got me started on this ? There is ONLY one answer to this question !

Yes , of course it is my Wife " Qing " .

How does that happen ? One wonder's ? Ones Love struck , your Mind start's to put out Poem's all of a sudden ? Why ... is this happening ? I know Love makes you do a lot of crazy thing's , but Poem's is something very serious , romantic and can be describbed as Love flowing from the Heart ... or better yet ... from the most inner part of yourself , the Soul .

So it goes , as I have written , thirteen Poem's knowing my Wife now . That's not even a two year's time period . If you are surprised by this , well it surprises me even more . Never have I thought , being able to produce such feeling's on Paper . But , as I will use this Blog ... as proof ... for our upcoming Interview , I like to start Posting the first three Poem's here . Some of you might have seen them already , but ... there are to remind you all , what Love can do ... when the Heart and Soul is involved . Enjoy .























This is my very first . ^





























This is my second . ^



























This is my third . ^




I will update and upload the other's in the coming day's . I try to remember them in order , hence some of them are dated while other's are not .

Exactly one year to day !

Yes ... my Brain is working overtime .
Today is the day last year , that I left LAX on my second Trip . Which was going to be the special Trip , not only for Qing's and the Bee's Wedding Ceremony , but also to meet my Mom , my Uncle and Aunt , a special Friend and his wife . This was a Trip , where actually , I was to be the last one there . Hence , I was to arrive on the fifth of August . While my Uncle and Aunt were arriving on the third and my Mom and my Friend on the fourth . But this left a problem ? As my Sweetheart had never met any of my Family yet , she would have been in charge of picking them up from the Airport . Which of course she was not too comfortable with , who could blame my poor Lao Po ?
So , to help with that I changed my Flight , to an earlier one . So this was the day Aug. 1st , when getting on my way again to be with my " Flower " .
I arrived on the second of August , in time ... yes in time ... to go the next day back to Pudong International Airport ... and the day after that also . Twice for me and three times for my Lao Po . I bet , she did not want to have anything to do with that Airport for a while .
Of course thinking back to this day , it brings all back , as if it was yesterday .

So , that also brings closer the first Anniversary ( 08-08-08 to 08-08-09 ) . Boy , that sure makes it easy to count the year's this way . After all , I know how to count to 30 with no problem ( may it be in German , English or Chinese ) . After that when I'm old and grey , it is all a Guess ? Hehe

This is of course going to be a special day in our Life's , as well as the 09- May '08 , our Registry Wedding . After seeing my Sweetheart for two full day's ( in Person ) , but knowing Her for year's it seemed .
Now I must start thinking of something nice for my nice Tai Tai . I wish I could have been there , wishing we had our Interview date at that time , but Life is not alway's the way you want it to be . The Government don't care about that kind of stuff , even though they know our date's very well . Why would they change their SLOW process , for someone anyway ?