This is something that I myself was thinking about from now and then, what if...?
Qing and I have talked about this a couple times, but never really too deep into it.
Not something my LaoPo likes to talk about, it just happen to come up.. I guess ones too many times to ignore again. What it is, is what if something happens to me and I did not survive whatever？Okay, let's go back a little more than five years. The time my first wife passed away. On the Cemetary Plot (which is a double) we had a marker made up, that also included my name on it. Of course that time, I had thought that I would never marry again. Now, having found Qing.. does that mean ..all must change?
So this is what our subject was that night.. where would I get buried? As one can see, this created a problem.. if you let it be one. Having my great LaoPo, it really isn't no problem at all. Hence most Chinese get cremated, she would be brought back to "her" families grave site.. after her wishes.
Now, how does that look to other's? Me having married twice and be together (as the marker reads.. "together forever"）with wife number one. I like to end it here, but our talk went a little further than that. Thinking it over, we had come to an point.. could this be.. why my first wife's kids are not going to visit the grave site? Because of my name being there too and I'm married again? I like not to think so, but I really never had any feedback concerning that nature.
Of course it bugs me a lot, every time on special days.. I go there and never have seen that anybody but me.. was ever nice enough to leave/bring flowers or any sign of having been there to honor their Mother. Like I've said, I go there because I have not forgotten or ever will. I have spend 30 years with this Woman, so why would/could I?
As this is now settled between my LaoPo and myself, I see no place for us (especially me) to worry about something that is and never was in/under my control anyway. I use to worry or let it bother me, what other People think.. I'm passed that and really don't care anymore. I have my own life to live, if it's with or without passed relationships.. as no-one can blame me one bid.. that I have not tried. Period!
Qing and I have talked about this a couple times, but never really too deep into it.
Not something my LaoPo likes to talk about, it just happen to come up.. I guess ones too many times to ignore again. What it is, is what if something happens to me and I did not survive whatever？Okay, let's go back a little more than five years. The time my first wife passed away. On the Cemetary Plot (which is a double) we had a marker made up, that also included my name on it. Of course that time, I had thought that I would never marry again. Now, having found Qing.. does that mean ..all must change?
So this is what our subject was that night.. where would I get buried? As one can see, this created a problem.. if you let it be one. Having my great LaoPo, it really isn't no problem at all. Hence most Chinese get cremated, she would be brought back to "her" families grave site.. after her wishes.
Now, how does that look to other's? Me having married twice and be together (as the marker reads.. "together forever"）with wife number one. I like to end it here, but our talk went a little further than that. Thinking it over, we had come to an point.. could this be.. why my first wife's kids are not going to visit the grave site? Because of my name being there too and I'm married again? I like not to think so, but I really never had any feedback concerning that nature.
Of course it bugs me a lot, every time on special days.. I go there and never have seen that anybody but me.. was ever nice enough to leave/bring flowers or any sign of having been there to honor their Mother. Like I've said, I go there because I have not forgotten or ever will. I have spend 30 years with this Woman, so why would/could I?
As this is now settled between my LaoPo and myself, I see no place for us (especially me) to worry about something that is and never was in/under my control anyway. I use to worry or let it bother me, what other People think.. I'm passed that and really don't care anymore. I have my own life to live, if it's with or without passed relationships.. as no-one can blame me one bid.. that I have not tried. Period!
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