Qing/Ming Festival through my Qing's Eyes!

Today , I want to remember what it is like to be part of this very special , yearly visit to the Gravesite of passed Ancester's and Loved ones . This annual trip to pay respect , is a whole Family ceremony each time , if possible , as health and the distance to the actual gravesite varies with each individual Person and Family member's . What makes this Ceremony special ? As I understand , from learning from my beautiful Wife , they bring Flower's , many kind's of Fruit ( Apple's , Oranges , Banana's , ect. ) they bring Candle's and Insence , which is a must when Praying for keeping the Family healthy and safe and a long and happy Life . They also burn ( Fake ) Money , which is concidered special Money for the Ancester's to use in Heaven . As I am a Catholic , with my own believes of God and Heaven , this is still a big part of my Wife , so I in a way , also appreciate their believes , we all do want pretty much the same think out of Life and when it comes to an end , to be part of a place , we here on Earth call Heaven . Of course one must earn it , while living our Life's here , among each other .
PS: Knowing my Qing , she pray'd not only for her Family as a whole , but I know she pray'd for her Shanghai MiFeng and for Herself , to have good health , a wonderful , happy future and a long Life for both of us , together in America , and help her to adjust well to our Customs and Culture . Being with the one you truely Love , it will be half as hard , as one might think .

My Prayer's go out to three Family's , my own , my late wife's , my new Family . Which in a way , show's my Prayer's go all around the Earth and hopefully also reach Heaven .

This being Qing / Ming Day , I'll remember !

This is a very special Day , not for the living only . No but also for the ones , if it was not for them , none of us would be here right now . I'm talking about our loved ones that passed away , many , many year's ago or not so long ago , maybe even just month's .

So , I like to take this moment , while I'm writing this , to think back as far as I can and remember my Great-Grandparent's , my Grandparent's , my Parent's ( if passed away ) along with all my Aunt's and Uncle's , that I might not even had a chance to ever meet , and their Children , to say a little Prayer and think of them for a while , what they have done in their Life's and how it could have affected me and in what way . ***************************************************************************

May God let them all rest in Peace and let them dwell by His side in Heaven !

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By now , who ever read's this , must wonder WHY the photo of the 12 Girl's Band on top of my letter ? Well , this is also a day to remember the Living . Personally , I myself and my wife Qing , must pay thank you to these Girl's , because of what we have now , Qing and I , we can truely say , without those Girl's , none of this would have ever happened , to either of us two . We really wish that one Day .... we have the chance to thank them in Person .

So please , remember the ones passed and the ones still with us and loving us , for who we are .

Thank you .... Thank you ....and another Thank you , from Myself and my wife Qing !

How one feel's after a Phone call to your Sweetheart ?

This Photo that my wife Qing send to me before we were Married , was one of many , that made me feel so Loved by a Woman that I have not even met face to face yet . These little things , which are really huge in building a foundation in any relationship , that one can look back upon , at times of closeness or times of sadness and trouble , to actually see what has brought us two together . That is why it is so very important , to never ... never forget these little thing she does for you out of LOVE to finally become " TRUE LOVE " between two people . The same of course goes for the things you do for Her , for which she will Love you more . Believe me , Women never forget any small or large Romantic somethings you have done for her . Like it's been many times repeated , action speak's louder then a thousand word's . Back to the Title , the Phone call ? This in a way , is how I feel , after a call . I start first to think how wonderful her voice is to my Ear's , how comforting it is to the Heart , to have a wonderful and most beautiful Woman on the other end of that phoneline and in LOVE with me ? One that thinks more of you , then you do of yourself many times ? So , I start to remember all the great and loving thing's my Sweetheart has done for me over a time period , that made me think sometimes , if I am really the Prince she see's in me ? Laying on the Bed and feeling the LOVE that just came through the Phoneline to me , I start to feel that I must be that Prince she was looking for and what comes all over your Body at this special moment , is her LOVE flowing all over your Body like water in a shower , like walking in the Rain , where each raindrop is filled with her LOVE . To get to expierence this kind of LOVE is like NOTHING in the world . It's one thing , money can not buy , and it can be shared by the poor and the wealthy equally .

This makes a Phone call ( while having to wait , to be together ) so special , the sound of your one and only LOVE , the sound of her voice , may it be in Chinese or broken English , it does not matter one little bit . It's the Voice of the one in your Heart and the Voice of your TRUE LOVE .

Missing your Lao Po .... and the long wait !!!

The big wait ? I don't need to tell anybody that is in Love with a chinese Lady , from another Country , and has to go through this part of the Relationship , being in Love like never before , but being apart by many many miles and an Ocean in between the two Heart's . Heart's that are longing to be together , with a loving embrace of four arms and a gentle kiss on the Lips .

This now is the fourth time , Qing and I must be waiting , to be together . Each time it is many month's of only E-Mailing and Phone call's , to stay as close as two people possibly can , through those circumstanes , that Life brings to certain Couple's , that find their TRUE LOVE on the other side of the World . So , at different moment's of time passing , one thought comes to Mind , is all this waiting worth the trouble , sadness , heartache of being lonely despite being Married ? Why is it , that after every Visit , to be with your Sweetheart , it get's harder and more difficult each time one has to leave the one you LOVE like no other , behind to only start the waiting all over again ? That question can be answered , by a simple , each time your together , the bond between two Lover's becomes stronger and stronger , that one can not Be or Live without the other . To have this kind of LOVE , makes all things one has to do for it , worth it many times over . BBB and TTT , will soon be together....never to be apart again . The Bee needs his Flower , the King his Queen , the Emperor his Empress , Arnold his Qing and not to forget , Qing her Arnold .

This special LOVE that Qing and I share , we wish all our Family's and all our Friend's equally . This is the LOVE , we all seek , but not everyone find's .

*** Wo de Shanghai hua , Wu Ai Nong ***

*** Ni de Palmdale MiFeng ***

My other Sister " MIN " in Baoding .

Since I'm talking about one sister , let's not forget my other sister MIN . After first signing up with Chnlove , she was the first of four , that I communicated with by EMF's . Min , lives in Baoding ( Hebei Province ) near Beijing . My first EMF to Min , was on October 23 '07 , right after signing up , not more than two day's afterward's . I must tell you , it did not take long before , we communicated real well and I had good feeling's toward Min , after about three week's of writing . But our relationship could only advance to be good friends ( brother / sister ) because Min had found already a Man from America at the time , and she could not , wanted not , to split her Heart into two pieces , so she nicely told me , that this could only lead to a friendship at most . As wonderful she was to me in this short time , I had not choice but to keep her as a sister . She was a TV announcer in Baoding at that time . Never been married before , alway's thinking of her career first . After Min had told me , about the other MAn in her Life , I decided that I should quit this Partner search here at Chnlove , but Min did not want to have a part of that . She pushed and pulled and talked me into trying again , to find that someone I came to find . The second Lady , Lin , was only 30 at that time and from Shanghai . It started out very well , but soon it was obvious that she was to young for myself and there was not much in common and no chemistry between us . It lasted a good two week's of EMF's , that's it . Later on the Official Forum , I noticed that someone from England married her and brought her to his country , in only three week's , as he stated . Then , as you know by now , came Lily into the Picture , which I explained already earlier on my Blog . On November 23 '07 I send out my letter to my now Wife ( Lao Po / Tai Tai ) and I received her first reply on the 27th Nov. , with an apology for being late , because her Phone had trouble . The next seven month's are not to missed , when my Book will become a reality . Sorry Guy's , not yet .

I am still looking forward to meet both my sister's some day , either in China or here in America . I think my four Brother's are jealous of my Sister's . Can anyone blame them , their beautiful inside and outside ? God bless them both .

Guy's , this is what flower's can do !

From: Lily Tang (Profile ID: P688090 ) To: arnold dusch Date: Apr 2, 2009 GMT Mail ID: P688ECJCFHG
Ni hao, wo qing ai de ge ge,I don't know how to give my appreciation to you my dear ge ge, you touch me so deeply, thank you ge ge, because of you, I light up hope again in this dark period, zheng de hen xie xie ni ge ge¡­.Dear ge ge, I just come back from my mother's grave, I have say thank you for you and I can feel she would smile when she heard that, thank you ge ge, maybe you don't know your concern means what a great power to our family, all of us are so warm and touched, so I must say thank you to you my dear ge ge, thank you¡­.Ge ge, I didn't receive your lily until today, I went out and I didn't bring phone with me yesterday, the agency call me many times but I didn't know, when I came back home I found there are so many calls so I called back, but there was nobody receive it, so I didn't know they wanted to send flowers to me, this morning, I went out again, but I take phone with me, so they told me there is flower from you and they will send to me at noon, when I get home, my father has receive for me and he is going to put the flowers into the vase, I told him this flowers are sent to mother by you, my father was so touched and say thank you many many times, he said it is our honor to have such a good ge ge as you, he said you are really a good person, he ask me must say thank you to you for him¡­.dear ge ge, you must be the angel that the god sent to comfort me through this hard time, there is no friend can remember to send greeting or flower to my mother except you, you are the only one who put my mother in your mind, thank you ge ge, you said thanks my mother for you, to let you have such a nice mei mei in your life, I also want to thanks your mother to let me have such a nice ge ge as you, and thank you for my mother because you support her hopeless daughter in her dark period, thank you ge ge, if you were beside me, I really want to give you a warm hug to express my million of thanks :)dear ge ge, about the man you are going to introduce to me, I am so thankful, I believe any man who introduce by ge ge must be a good man because I trust ge ge, I believe if he isn't a good man, ge ge would not introduce to me, right? so ge ge, yes I would like to know him, please tell him I would like to write with him, does he in Chnlove too? how old is he? How far he lives away from you?my mood is much better today, thank you ge ge, this is the result of your care:)your niece and her friends are beautiful, they are so young, envy, hehe, say hello to Qing :)thank you again ge getake careNi de mei mei,Lily

How I care for my chinese Sister ?

April 1st '09How do I care for a chinese Woman , that I call my Sister ( Mei Mei )?Today , is the perfect day , to talk about my little sister Lily . I have met her on Chnlove just before I met Qing , late '07 . I send her a little EMF , instead of a Cupid Note , about three day's later I received a wonderful and warm letter back from Her . But what happened in those three day's waiting for Lily reply , I also had send Qing a letter , and for some reason , my Heart told me this is the Woman , I should get to know better . So here I was , with two wonderful , kind and warmhearted Women , but could only choose one of them to be , hopefully my future Wife . So what I did , was not the nices move one can make . I ignored Lily toatally from then on , as I was really getting closer to Qing's heart . But , as conscience has it , it left me feeling quilty , for almost a Year . That's when I could not take it anymore , after such a warm reply , I had to write to her and let her know WHY I never replied . I apologized and told her how I felt quilty , not have answered her letter . She barely remembered me , but she did and after all that time , she was still the same wonderful , nice , kind Woman , that I left behind almost a year ago . Well , now of course she is my very own Sister , I would do anything for , in need of help , support and to comfort her , whenever needed . As the month's gone by , she has written to one Man from America (Calif. also ), but he lost his Job and could not continue this venture do to money problem's . Which of course was a heartbreaker for Lily at that time , after month's of writing to each other . Then , Lily's Mom passed away in the Hospital , after a long illness . I wrote her a comforting letter and told her to take as much time as she need's before continueingto write to me . I think six weeks past and she finally wrote back an EMF and told me she was alright now , but her Father was not , which I can understand , going through that myself already . So , she wanted to get back , finding a Man she could call her own . She found a Man , from the States and he dicided to visit her after only a short time of communicating , via EMF's . Which of course Lily though that was kind of strange , but , since she is 49 years old , she see's this as a chance to make something happen . He , arrived , met , stayed in her Home , to save himself some Money , but as it turns out , this Guy only used Lily , pretty much to pay for his meals , sightseeing trip's together , after spending about 4000 yuan ( which includes Money borrowed from her Father )she took it onto herself to ask him , what he was thinking about our relationship , if he had any feeling's toward's her , to continue as a couple ? Well , he say's , he was not sure about the whole thing and this is where this Jerk left her , going back home . So this Man comes over to she Lily , just to use her as a Guide , a pay Pal to get to see some of China , never ones account for Lily having feeling's and getting her hopes up for a better Life . So , here she is , heartbroken a third time since I know her . Believe me , she is a very strong Person , having still to comfort her Dad , little sister and all this happening to her , in such a short time . This is when I wished , I could just go over there and give my and Qing's support to her and her Family . Now of course I'm really careful who she meet's through Chnlove , which by the way , extended her contract by six month's for free , because she did not find somebody yet . I love this Woman , like I do my own Brother's . I am really blessed ( maybe she is also ) to have each other's support . What a wonderful World this is with wonderful People like my Mei Mei Lily . God bless her , and find a her a loving Husband soon . This Woman really deserves the best .