How I care for my chinese Sister ?

April 1st '09How do I care for a chinese Woman , that I call my Sister ( Mei Mei )?Today , is the perfect day , to talk about my little sister Lily . I have met her on Chnlove just before I met Qing , late '07 . I send her a little EMF , instead of a Cupid Note , about three day's later I received a wonderful and warm letter back from Her . But what happened in those three day's waiting for Lily reply , I also had send Qing a letter , and for some reason , my Heart told me this is the Woman , I should get to know better . So here I was , with two wonderful , kind and warmhearted Women , but could only choose one of them to be , hopefully my future Wife . So what I did , was not the nices move one can make . I ignored Lily toatally from then on , as I was really getting closer to Qing's heart . But , as conscience has it , it left me feeling quilty , for almost a Year . That's when I could not take it anymore , after such a warm reply , I had to write to her and let her know WHY I never replied . I apologized and told her how I felt quilty , not have answered her letter . She barely remembered me , but she did and after all that time , she was still the same wonderful , nice , kind Woman , that I left behind almost a year ago . Well , now of course she is my very own Sister , I would do anything for , in need of help , support and to comfort her , whenever needed . As the month's gone by , she has written to one Man from America (Calif. also ), but he lost his Job and could not continue this venture do to money problem's . Which of course was a heartbreaker for Lily at that time , after month's of writing to each other . Then , Lily's Mom passed away in the Hospital , after a long illness . I wrote her a comforting letter and told her to take as much time as she need's before continueingto write to me . I think six weeks past and she finally wrote back an EMF and told me she was alright now , but her Father was not , which I can understand , going through that myself already . So , she wanted to get back , finding a Man she could call her own . She found a Man , from the States and he dicided to visit her after only a short time of communicating , via EMF's . Which of course Lily though that was kind of strange , but , since she is 49 years old , she see's this as a chance to make something happen . He , arrived , met , stayed in her Home , to save himself some Money , but as it turns out , this Guy only used Lily , pretty much to pay for his meals , sightseeing trip's together , after spending about 4000 yuan ( which includes Money borrowed from her Father )she took it onto herself to ask him , what he was thinking about our relationship , if he had any feeling's toward's her , to continue as a couple ? Well , he say's , he was not sure about the whole thing and this is where this Jerk left her , going back home . So this Man comes over to she Lily , just to use her as a Guide , a pay Pal to get to see some of China , never ones account for Lily having feeling's and getting her hopes up for a better Life . So , here she is , heartbroken a third time since I know her . Believe me , she is a very strong Person , having still to comfort her Dad , little sister and all this happening to her , in such a short time . This is when I wished , I could just go over there and give my and Qing's support to her and her Family . Now of course I'm really careful who she meet's through Chnlove , which by the way , extended her contract by six month's for free , because she did not find somebody yet . I love this Woman , like I do my own Brother's . I am really blessed ( maybe she is also ) to have each other's support . What a wonderful World this is with wonderful People like my Mei Mei Lily . God bless her , and find a her a loving Husband soon . This Woman really deserves the best .