Something new for Qing tomorrow .

This will be Qing's first Halloween , she's going to Witness here .
Do we have Candy for the Crowd going to show up by our front door ? Of course I made sure I had purchased enough Candy to last us a while , so she can see what it is all about ( for the Kid's and some Adults ) .
The last two years or so , were not exactly overwhelmed with Kid's coming for Candy . Matter of fact , it slowed down somewhat with each year passing by . Don't really know what to expect this year , we'll see ? I told Qing , all the Candy that is left over that night .. MUST be eating that same night or bad luck will follow . Me being NO fool , buy only the Stuff I also love to snack on . I see no problem here either way . haha

HAPPY HALLOWEEN !!! To all my Follower's .

Still safe and sound .. sleeping well .

So , like mentioned before .. Qing and I did visit Nancy's Grave site and brought her some Flower's . Also , as I like to do .. is clean her Grave-marker .. so it's nice and shiny . Nancy did like everything always very nice and clean . After placing the Flower's in the Vase , I proceeded to ( please don't laugh ) talk to Her . Telling her about the last days of her Life , how she was so worried .. how I would continue without her . What would happen to me ? Well , both of us coming here and asking for her blessing and not to be angry at Qing . After all , she's such a great Wife to me now .. that I could not be in better Hands to be taken care of . Also , letting her know .. I'm not going to ever forget our thirty years that we had together . Me being by her side to the last minute and she knows that . So now , all Qing and I ask for .. is the same respect back .

It might sound strange , me .. well Qing too .. to be even doing this . But , should respect really stop with one's passing ? Of course not and it certainly wont if I can help it . Anybody giving you thirty happy years of their Life , has earned respect .. whether living or deceased .

We left the Cemetery feeling better about ourselves , especially me . So on the way home , I decided to pay a visit to an ex-Son In-law and see how things are going after they got divorced just nine months earlier this year . It was good to see he is doing great and so are the two Children of his . This took us somewhat away from the Cemetery scene and put us back in a more joyous mood . To top it off , halfway home .. we were coming close to an Pumpkin-Festicval and decided to stop and see . There were hundreds if not a thousand People present , so it had to be somewhat of an exciting Event going on . We been there for about half hour , walking through Scare Crow Alley and whatever had to do with Halloween coming up . That is , when we ran into two of my Grand-Children and their Husbands and Kids . Since they all live in the same Valley , I kind of figured to run into somebody I know and sure did . Happy to see each other again , I told them that we must get together for some Brunch one of those days . So you see , I still enjoy/love Nancy's Children and Grand kids alike . Why should I not ?

Spending a nice day together ( Qing and Me ) , what do we do coming Home ? Starting Dinner together , something I must admit .. was never a thing .. I did much with Nancy . Which was not really an option back then , having a Job and a half daily .

Now , I hope this will settle things what the Dream department concerns for good . We'll see , as I will wait / sleep and dream hopefully not a repeat of this earlier Dream .

Okay , now for some Stranger things .

Now we really don't want to say , that our Home is a Haunted House . But , very strange stuff has been going on over the last year . Not counting my late Wife , seeing her youngest Son ( which had passed away at an early Age of only 28 years in 2000) standing in the Doorway of our Master Bedroom and her Grandma she has seen before she passed away that morning .

Anyhow , I want to bring to mind some of the weird happenings inside the House of ours .

The first thing I like to mention , happened before Qing came to America . It was one night after I had gone to sleep , after the News as I do most of the evenings . This was to be a different night , that's for sure .. I'll will always remember . I was awakened , don't know really by what .. but what I saw was un-real . My Bedroom is somewhat lighted by a couple of Air Fresheners and the Glow of the Cable Box . So it is not completely dark at night time . As I opened my Eyes and looked up , I soon noticed that the Room in a strange stage . On the Ceiling there were like miniature size Storm Clouds rolling about themselves , as it was about to let go and release a big amount of Rain . This also was accompanied by the Room turning .. so it seemed . As I lay'd there and watched , not afraid or wanting to turn on the lights .. I just wanted to really see what this was . I opened and closed my Eyes a few times to see if it will disappear or if it is all a Dream . But it did not vanish the slightest . In matter of fact , it started to show some light flashes in the corners of the Room .. like little Stars sparkling off and on at pretty much the same intervals . Having seen Movies of Haunted Houses , I tried to see/feel if it has gotten any cooler in the Room . Yeah , they say it get's cold when a Ghost is present .. that was not the case . After watching this for a short time , which seemed longer of course . I closed again my Eyes and started to Pray and started to talk as if I was talking to my late Wife ( feeling in case it was her ) . By the time I opened my Eyes again , it was all gone and I turned on the Lights . I of course could not sleep for some time after this experience of the unknown , whatever it was . I had told this to my Sister In-law the following week and she told me to put Holy Water or Olive Oil around all my Doors that lead to the inside . Well , I sure did this suggestion and behold it has not happened again as of to this date .

Now to the things that goes on while Qing is here with me .

There are three incidence's , that we both wonder .. is this really Haunted by my late Wife ? She did hated the thought of somebody else taking over " HER " House as she used to say . Always had to remind her , this is " OUR " House .. is it not ? Anyway , the first strange occurrence .. had both of us wake up about the same time in the middle of the night .. while sleeping . We have a Ceiling Fan in most Rooms of the House , except the Living Room . So as we both stare up to this Fan , it's light had turned on and the Fan was going 3rd Speed which we hardly ever use ( 1st.or 2nd. ) . I know this is a Remote operated Fan , but to come on like this .. both ways and in the middle of the night .. was somewhat frightening to say the least . So we put it off , well it's a Remote and someone might have the same Code and made it go on . But is it so , we never know for sure ?

The other two were somewhat scary too , for Qing at least .. because she's the one hearing this on two occasions . One being , a clear " Foot Step noises coming from the Attic . As Qing describes them .. like someone with High Heels and walking around as this could be heard in different Rooms .
The other coming just a couple of weeks ago , also very clear Knocking coming from the Walls . Well this is at least what Qing thought . She actually went outside through the Front Door and could still hear them , but could not manage to really locate or pinpoint exactly where there coming from .


So now we put all this together and Qing wants to go to Nancy's Graveside and ask for our Blessing again , as she feels .. Nancy might not be happy having her here with me . I know , strange .. but this is how I see it too . How else would one explain it ? So we will go again , as we have done this right after Qing's arrival for the same reason and ask for Blessing and not to be angry . Everyone that knows my LaoPo , knows that she respects Nancy very much and feels we must do this to please her .

A Haunted House and bad Economy .... NOT good !!!

Trying to analyze the meaning of Dreams .

Anyone that has read the last Post , that it was quite a unique Dream to have .

Yesterday evening after Dinner , I showed Qing my Blog explaining my Dream to the Readers that follow my Blog regularly . This of course brought it all back for my LaoPo , which she might have forgotten about already . Except times with Friends , which I have mentioned earlier . So now , we sit down and REALLY think .. what this could have meant . Before I like to say , that we both believe .. that passed away Relatives can actually .. see / be among us in same way . Not to harm / or wish bad things on us , but in a good way .. like protecting us from harm ( which I have proof of an Experience a ways back in my Life ) . But that is another Story all together . Anyway , for over an Hour we try to analyze the meaning of that Dream .
Knowing , when People die and go to Heaven .. their there because .. they been good/honest People all there Lives . Now , with this in Mind .. I would NOT suspect my late Wife to be upset with me being Married again and having Qing live in my ( ours now ) House .
Through serious talking , we .. well I actually had to go back years . To the time my late Wife passed away . It is of course in Human nature , to grieve a loved one after their gone . But that does not give anyone a time limit , of how long one must grieve . This depends on each and every individual .. right ?
I finally came up with the conclusion , that it was caused by that time frame .. during my grieving . See , to think , I found Chnlove in Oct. '07 and my late Wife ( let's call her by name ) Nancy died in Jan . that year . This , showed to People ( mostly Family ) that I was looking so soon after .. for another Woman already . This is not how it really happened , most of you know .. that have read my Blog from the beginning . I did NOT go out of my way to look for a new Wife/Woman , it CAME to me . May it been Fate/Destiny , whatever ? The fact is , at some point during that time .. I must of felt really Guilty for doing this search . Some Family members help in that part too , by letting me know this wasn't right to do . I did not feel like , I had to explain my Life to anyone .. it was MY Life as I see it .

Back to the Dream . So , as one knows .. Dreams are most of the time not right from yesterday or last week . They can date back months/years for that matter and Bingo .. you find yourself being set back in time by none other .. than your Brain . Maybe with the help of someone from above ? Whatever , we now believe we have pinpointed the cause of this Dream and know .. we can relax . It's not Nancy trying to kick us both out of the House , through a Dream . Someone that's in Heaven , I'm sure is not allowed to do such things .. as to wish anything bad/mean on anybody . This is why their there in the first place .

Still , this does not explain the Knocking / Footstep noise's .. Light's / Ceiling Fan's (2) turning on and off by themselves ? This will be covered later in a Post .

I thought , I write something diff... !

By that , I mean .. something we most likely do not pay too much attention to , in our daily Life's .

'''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' DREAMS ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''

I told you , this is not the thing one wonders about much . But as common as it is , do we actually care or think that .. there is more to them , then .. just a nightly happening that we have no control over .
This is exactly what I like to bring out with this Post here .

Whatever the situation might be , in my case .. Re-Marry . How will this effect my Dreams ? I tell you , it does very much so . Not that I only dream of my new LaoPo "Qing" now , no .. I still have quite a collection of different Dreams . But the one I want to write about , happened a few weeks back . It was a very short dream , very clear though . As it turned out , it had my late Wife in it too .

Remembering the best that I can ( at my Age ) , I try to give vivid detail .

I was coming Home from Work , as I usually do everyday . This time it was , to my surprise very strange though . As I entered through the front Door , a Woman was sitting in a Chair in the Living Room . She looked at me , in a NOT to nice way if I remember right . Asking me , " Who is this Woman in my House " . Of course I was shell shocked , not only seeing her sitting there .. but I knew very well .. that I was married to my LaoPo already . Wow , I'm in trouble here .. I thought to myself quietly . The next sentence coming my way , was .. this Woman got to get out of my House . Straight faced and without any hesitation , I told this Lady .. this Woman stays .. she's my Sister !!! Yeah .. no kidding .. " My Sister " I told her .

This had awakened me right there in a Sweat , as one can imagine . I told my Sweetheart this the moment she woke up and I felt she'd be ready to listen to my dream . Honey , mmmh .. you know your my LaoPo .. Right ? I have to tell you what I just have dreamed , so don't be mad . So , after starting from the start , came the Punch Line . I called you my " Sister " in front , what I believe now .. could have been my late Wife ? Remember it's a dream and a Person might look different in appearance . The first thing I know , was my Sweetheart giving me a nice ( but not too gentle ) punch on the upper Arm facing her . Soooo .. I'm your Sister ?? was repeated over several times . Yes .. yes , but it was only a dream was my response . This did not work for a couple of hours ( I think ) , til things cooled off some . hahaha

Now , we .. or I should say Qing , will tell this to all our Friends . In a serious but calm Face .. He called me his " Sister " . So now I'm a object of much Fun and Laughter of course , whenever it is brought up .

Now that we had time to analyze this and break it down some , do I/We think .. it was my late Wife telling me .. Qing needs to get out of this House ? Dreams , do or can have a meaning .. don't really know . In fact , I don't really want to know .
Was this as it played out ? I hope not , hence I believe that my late Wife is happy for me/us .. to have found each other and Life goes about happy and loved again .

Sweetheart , your always be my LaoPo / Tai Tai / Wife .. really !!!!

More Photo's from Sunday .

Sorry , but for some reason .. I could not add these here to my earlier Post . But no harm done , I guess ?

Here is from last night's Dinner , with the great Chef " Qing " !

Actually , all the preparations began on Saturday already . After having done the shopping for all those wonderful dishes , Qing was about to make , it was to get herself organized and start to prepare some of items needed . The cutting .. cleaning of Vegie's , Meats and Fish and putting all in a place in the Refrigerator , where their easy to find later on Sunday .


Again , after I made Breakfast for both of us .. it was time for Qing to go to work . I did a last minute run to the Market for a couple things we forgot earlier to buy . Got that done and then I finished some of the House cleaning ( windows mostly ) . My Yard I jumped on the day before and made presentable .


As the house started to smell like .. your in a Chinese Restaurant Kitchen and the Temperature in the house started to climb , due to all burners on the Stove were going at the same time . For me it was best to stay out my Sweethearts way and let her do her thing . I did manage to help with some of the final chopping , as I did feel guilty .. seeing her so busy and me just waiting for our Guest's to arrive . Ones she goes full steam ahead , there is no reason even to ask .. can I help with something ?


First to arrive was my good Friend and his Family . This gave me at last something to do , that seemed equally important as the Cooking part . Making them feel at home and help them stay out of trouble by getting to close to the Kitchen , where by now it was pretty much Taboo to walk into . It's not really what I told my Friend's , that Qing does not want to share her cooking secrets . It is , you don't want to get rolled over going back and forth . I look at this and think to myself .. Man .. she needs eight arms or another Chef to bring this to normal speed . Haha


An hour later my Sister In-law and her Family joined us . The first time they been here , since my late Wife passed away in 2007 . After a big Welcome , she was allowed into the Kitchen with my Friends Wife . Only because , Sister In-law was preparing the Dessert for later . Us Guy's , don't even think about it .. stay in the Living room .


Here finally the signal that the Won Ton Soup is ready to be served . As one can imagine , breakfast was by now forgotten and we all seemed to be starving and looking forward what was about to come out of Qing's Kitchen . It took not too long , before Qing and I got to hear .. " This is the best Won Ton Soup I ever had " !


Wow .. I thought , and this was only the start of things to follow . This was the only time Qing actually sat down ( except the time the final dish was served up ) to eat with us . What followed , well was not short of the Won Ton Soup either .


As the Compliments kept coming , Qing's response was .. a simple .. but this is easy/simple for me . Heck , I think .. I was as proud of her being my Wife .. like at our Wedding becoming my Wife . I have mentioned before on other Post's , she really as brought the Shanghai Food/Cooking with her to America . Just thinking the idea , what if all those special Sauce's and Spice's were not available here ? I guess , instead of Chinese Food .. it'll be Steak and Potatoes . No , I don't even want to think this .. really !


I could not imagine , that anyone had room left for Dessert . But as it showed , both the Dessert's where also a " Hit " .. in two area's .. the Taste bud's and the Stomach of course . It turned out to be a wonderful experience for all , to see a Chinese Master at work in their Kitchen .


I also said many times , I'm a Lucky fellow to have such a wonderful/amazing Wife by my side .. Day and Night .

Is it Heaven ? You bet , here on Earth at least it is .. without a doubt for sure .

Upcoming Post .. soon .

The next Post will be from tomorrows Dinner gathering of my Sister In-law / her Husband and one of my best Friends and his wife , that also met through the Internet . Qing is going all out ( well me too ) to cook them an true Chinese Dinner , which is the first for them .
I include the Menu for that day now .

1st: Won ton Soup
2nd: Beef with Vegetable
3rd. Orange Chicken
4th: Cocoanut Shrimp
5th: Jellyfish with Daikon Radish
6th: A Tofu Dish
7th: * Green Beans with ground Meat .
8th: Steamed Rice of course .
9th: Dessert is on my Sister In-law
10th: Beer, Wine , Sake , Chinese Tea , Juice , Milk , Water ..
nobody runs Dry .

* A little Spicy

I plan on taking Photo's , which I will post some of them .. if I look handsome of course .

Marketing the American way .

Oh yes , we all think .. we are doing it all right here in America .

But , being married to an Chinese Woman .. changes all that , very quickly .

Let's talk about my Shopping habit's . First of all , I'm not a great Cook by any standard's . So let's begin , I do know how to Cook to keep me alive and that is a good thing . Wouldn't everyone agree ? Now , these times .. things are really made easy for the average Guy in the Kitchen . Microwave this and that and make a Salad ( out of a Bag of course ) and you have a Dinner of some kind . Yeah .. I am such a great and efficient Chef .. wolahh . That is all nice and good from a Single Person's view . But here comes the big " BUT " ! Being married now , things change all of a sudden and I wonder why that is ?


Now being with your Sweetheart going through the Isle's , your still in the American mode .. before you realize .. wait a minute here . She is starting to have her input in all of this , shopping for Food and what to Buy . Not that this is new to me , as I was married before to a American-Mexican Lady . The only difference now is , this is a " CHINESE " Lady ( LaoPo ) . Everything you have ever thought is right , what this subject concerns .. is about 75% out of the Window .

I will now take you through a Shopping encounter with my LaoPo . Hand in Hand that is , as we are still Newlywed's ( too bad Bob Eubanks show is gone ) . We always start in the Produce Section for some reason , don't ask me why . This was always the last before . As one don't want to put heavy stuff on the Tomatoes and such . Myself , being a Person that can
" Adjust " to almost anything with no problem .. have no problem with this either .

Now , the different Fun begins .. Hahaha .

First , as a nice LaoGong .. you ask before deciding on anything of course . As our Produce are somewhat unfamiliar with my better half , I ask .. do you like this or that , before committing to Buy it . I almost get the same answer every time . If you like it !
This does not tell me if she likes it .. now does it ? So if I really like it , I'll bag it .. without feeling too guilty . This goes on for about an hour and a half or more , working through Isle to Isle .

One thing that stands out , is .. she will not Buy under any circumstance buy canned Food or Vegetable or Frozen anything . With the exception , of Potatoes ( Hash browns ) for Breakfast . I know very well the Customs of China , as they like it " FRESH " ! Whatever it is , Meat - Fish - Vegetables - or Fruit . Heck , they even worry about the Rice .. not being too old .

But , do I really mind this sudden change ? NO .. of course I do not ! I'd do anything for my Sweetheart , but eat Eggplant .. now this is one Item .. I will not tolerate on my Plate .
Nobody can call me being Picky , as I at least give everything at least " ONE " try .

One thing , going Home after Food-shopping .. is you feel good about yourself .. having done great and have it the American way anyway . By loading up for several weeks of Food at a time , even with a CHINESE wife . hahaha