Can LOVE be measured by Plant's ?

These two different IVY plant's , one is solid Green , the other Green with White edges , portray the time frame , that Qing and I know each other .





Yes , I planted these two about the same time I met Qing through Chnlove , in November 2007 . I dedicated these two Ivy's to us . The one with the white edge is mine , the other belongs to Qing . Planted right next to each other , I was hoping that these two would intervine with each other and in a way become ONE , like our TRUE LOVE has become . Since then , those two have grown like no other plant in my Garden / Yard . So this is why the question ?



Do these Plant's know about our LOVE , or are they trying to tell us something here ?
Maybe even both ?

This Plant , is climbing up the side of the House and is half way to the top already . I know , many will say ... all Ivy grows like this ! Well maybe ? But not in this case . Why ? Because this is not the only Ivy that I have and all the other's do NOT grow like this , not even half as fast . I also do not feed this one more than the other's .

By this fact , I believe this plant is a sign of Mine and Qing's strong and alway's growing LOVE . Just one of those many strange things happening , since we know each other . As you can imagine , this is a very special Ivy to both of us .

So , that brings us to a new Question ? It this Plant going to go nut's , ones Qing is here with me under one roof ???

To change the subject , I like to talk about our phone call a couple of day's ago .
I wanted to call Qing , because she did have a cold ( as mentioned in an earlier Blog ) and I wanted to see if she was all right ? She was at work , when I called , which surprised me , here I thought she would be at home and resting . What got me worried , was her coughing every few minutes . But she reassured me , that she was not too bad off and she took Medicine for it .
As we talked , it came up that , I had posted Qing's last letter on my Blog . Not that this was a bad thing to do , since most of our letter's will make it to a Book , hopefully in the not too far future . But what worried my Sweetheart , was something that none of my follower's would guess right ?
It was her English writing ! Now , I myself feel/know that it is very good , since we only been using E-Mail as of April last year .

So , I have a favour to ask of all Follower's , and to be very honest , after reading the letter in a previous Blog . Make a Comment of what you think about my Sweetheart 's english writing ? 10 being excellent --- 1 being poor .
I appreciate every comment very much , so will my Qing .

I don't want to embarrass my Lao Po here , I want her to feel comfortable with her english , now and when she is with me later .

I want her to feel , she can write on my Blog , whenever she want's and feel good about it . It is after all , our very own Diary , to let our feeling's be known , so other's will learn from them , and us too , we will be closer and tuned in to our deepest inner feeling's , to know each other to the fullest .

I remember a quote , that I received from my Flower in one of our letter's a long time ago , it went like this ; LOVE , will make us do many difficult things and overcome many problem's .
Now how much more true can this be ?

*** BBB loves TTT ***

What a hard day , this has been !

Today I left work earlier then usually . About an hour or so , since my Uncle had to go to Las Vegas for a couple of day's , to sign some loan paper's for his daughter's House they bought over the weekend . Having been given some big Boxes from our warehouse for Car part's . I thought ... well let me take them home and start cleaning out my walk-in closet , of the rest of my late wife's things . Well that came to a quick stop , because those two boxes couldn't hold a fifth of the clothes in THAT closet , mostly blouse's and top's . So , got myself some of those big Lawn Bags and started , what I thought was not going to take too long . As you Guy's all know pretty much , what an emotional Guy , I am ? It took only a couple of top's off the hanger's and the Tears started to roll , and roll they did . See , these are not just clothes , these are pieces that my late wife wore on a regular bases and that brought back memories of the times , I have seen her wearing this and that . Many of them , I either took to the Cleaner's or I iron'd them for my wife , many times over . I had to stop and get a hold of myself every few minutes . This is so much harder , than just giving some of her clothes to her daughter's , which I was not going to do , with what was left . I must of given them thousand's of dollar's worth of clothes and shoe's already . Now this took me about two hour's and seven of those big Lawn Bags after , full of , and I mean great clothes . Some are new and other's like new , still with cleaner's plastic over them . This has me so shaken , that I totally lost my appetite to eat dinner . I just took a cool shower and poured me a Glass of Red Wine and started to write . This is the hardest thing I had to do , since the Funeral itself . Because , the memories are all good ones ( 95% of them anyway ). This is why , I wanted to do it this way . Now they sit in the Garage and bagged up , so after some weeks go by , I think it will get easier to take them to Goodwill . At least they will go for a good cause and will make many People happy to get them . I know my late wife would not mind of this .

Anyhow , now I only have the Hallway closet to worry about , mostly her Pant's and heavy Sweater's and two big plastic boxes full of winter clothes . I tell you , this Woman had clothes everywhere , no wonder , I only had little closet space for myself ? Remember , I have given away Shoe's already . Well , I have about ... let's say two to three dozen left . But those are about Qing's size , with some worn only once or twice . So , if she don't mind to try them on , great . If not , than they will go also . I just hate to see them go to waste , when Shoe's are so expansive nowaday's . I will leave it up to my Sweetheart , what to do with them ?

So , that said and my Glass half empty ( or half full ) , you can see , it was not an easy task . Now , if we had divorced or broken up , that would have made this a whole lot easier ! Hehehe . I think ????

This is actually not what I was going to write today , but it had to be said . I will write , what was on my Mind before ... I got hold of those lousy Boxes . But , I am glad I have done what I needed to do sooner or later anyway .

PS : There is of course , my late Wife's nightgown , that she had on when she past away , that will go nowhere . It will stay in my Dresser draw for ever . This I took with me all over the place , when visiting Family member's , after she past away . Even took it to Germany . It was next to me every night , for month's . Not anymore , but it means too much to let this go . I know , Qing will understand this , she know's how much I loved her and she know's that I will Love her equally as much .

*** IS THAT NOT RIGHT , SWEETHEART ? ***

A special thank's ! ( Sunday afternoon )

When a day looks cloudy and it is about to Rain on you . Lightning will strike you it seem's any minute . The Thunder will shatter your Eardrum's . When it looks like , one better stay's in Bed all day and hide under the cover's . What happen's ? This lovely Flower show's up , inside your House and show's all her beauty , as to smile at you with all it's Love radiating from the bottom of her stem to the very top of her colorful and sunny Face . How will that turn a disappointed Bee into a happy Bee ? .... Instantly .... faster than Lighting could ever strike .
No need to say , who that flower is .
Thank you ^_^ !!!

I feel like a HEEL ! ( Sunday Morning )

I really feel like a very selfish Person right now , for ever posting my last Blog here . How a letter from your Sweetheart can make you realize , how much She really Loves you , to tell me , that she is sorry . When , I should be the one saying " Dui bu qi " to my Lao Po instead .



***I LOVE YOU,LAO GONG*** First i want to say sorry for not sign in your blog on time as the 11th follower because that day i got a bad cold and feel sleepy, i didn't feel good til right now.then the next day when i open your blog, i found somebody has been the 11th already.This is my fault,i don't want you feel disappointed,maybe i should be spanked for that,please smile again,my always happy Bee.I think it will take time if i write blog since i have to work busily and take care of Tian Chi that i have not too much time.Love to read your blog always and thank you for make me feel your deep LOVE from your blog that i will cherish it FOREVER ***LAO PO LOVES LAO GONG***
You see your Flower also has some shortcoming that alway do something slowly and not consider roundly for everything.But with your LOVE, i think i will do well in the future,right?
Dui Bu Qi,Lao Gong.Your Lao Po wants to read the blog you write again.Hope you feel good this time when you receive my letter.***YOUR FOREVER FLOWER***



How wonderful my Wife is , to tell me , she has shortcoming's ! When , in fact it's me with the shortcoming's . I made this " 11 " thing way to large and let it get control of me , when it had nothing at all to do with the Love we share between us . I think , it's our western upbringing , that has us thinking this way . Alway's need to be the way we want it to be , or else ... how can I be happy ? I might have learned a lot from my late wife , what True Love is , but as I find out now , the great Lady ( my Lao Po ) is going to teach much more , when I thought I knew it all already . It does not matter how old or how smart one is , your never done learning .

If anyone has any daught left , why these chinese Women are the best in the world , being married to Qing , certainly proof's that to me already and we haven't even begun to live together yet .

I am just longing for the day we will be joined in our own Home and I can realize , how lucky I am really are , to be blessed with this very ... very special Woman , I call my Lao Po .



So , I need to apologize to my Sweetheart tomorrow ( tonight here ) and make sure she is feeling well after catching the Cold .

A first , feeling this way ?

This is really the first time , since knowing my Sweetheart , that I feel somewhat
" disappointed " . Yes , that would be the right word , but don't know for sure , if I should feel this way ? It might not be my Sweetheart's fault after all ?

It came about Wednesday night , it was about 23:30 , my time . So quite late , if you think , I'm getting up at 05:30 in the morning . I called my Lao Po , to thank her for the lovely letter I received earlier in the evening . It also been a few day's since talking to her last .

Anyhow , what has me feeling like this , is , since my Qing read's my Blog as soon as I post them and loves them very much . Because it does show her , how much I love her and miss her so tremendously . So , I ask her , if she would like to become a Follower on my Blog ? This would have made her the 11 th follower that I have at this moment . Knowing how important the number eleven is with the chinese , I thought perfect . Well , I checked the next morning ... nothing yet . I was thinking , after work I will go check and I am sure she will be joined by then . But it was not to be , instead " Nik Stanosheck " has signed in as the eleventh follower . Not , that I don't love to have him follow my Blog , it just came at the wrong moment , when I wanted Qing so badly be number " 11 " . In matter of fact , so bad , that I was thinking of just stopping to write into my Blog anymore and let it be for what it now was . This been going through my Mind the last two day's . Why ? Why did she not sign up ? Was it because it is mostly Men that follow or did my Sweetheart have trouble singing up ??
Not knowing this , has me in this mood of disappointment . But is it really worth , making this so important ? It's only a number to many , but as thing's beteewn us have devoloped , there are a few number's , that really do mean a lot to both of us . Like the number " Eight " of course , for our Wedding Ceremony . The number " Eleven " for when I send her Roses , eleven went to her and the 12th to her Mom . The number " Twentyone " because , my Mom's address is 21 , my sister in Baoding address is 21 , my Sweetheart's address has the number 21 in it , and on top of all this , my Lao Po cell Phone number is 1321821 ( three times the number 21 ) , and last the number " Twentysix " because , we both share this day as our Birthday's . To make it even more interesting , on my three visit's so far , my Hotel room number , no matter at what Hotel we both stayed in , add up the room number's and you will alway's find ... 11 --- 21 --- or 26 . Sample : Feb. 5 day's in Shanghai room # 1659 = 21 ; after coming back from Beijing , 3 day's in the same Hotel , received the room # 1758 = also 21 . This been happening since we have met , from day one .
My late wife's and mine wedding date , 05-06-78 =26 ; my late wife died on the 01-24-07 at 66 years old = 26 . I think you get the picture ? This just goes on and on , if we are together or apart , it does not matter .

So , as I am not a believer in Coincidence's , but in Fate / Destiny , this surely show's that Qing and I are really meant to be together and somebody wanted us together as Husband and Wife . This Story need's to be told in a Book , if it's the last thing I do in my Life .

So , having said this and of my Chest , I do feel relieved of this feeling I had , when I started writing this . Maybe I am crazy somewhat , all these up and down Emotions ? Either way ... *** I LOVE MY LAO PO FOREVER ***

It's not her fault , but only mine and mine alone .

While waiting ... time seems to stand still !

But yet , why does it also seems to move very fast , as Qing and I are approaching our one year Anniversary soon . It must be all a Mind game , that is play'd on us , how else would you explain this tuck of Time in two directions ? Maybe it's between being " Happy " and being " Sad " ? Anyhow , with our Anniversary being on the 09th of May , it is hard to think that , out of those 365 day's , we only got to spend about 33 day's being together as Husband and Wife . Looking at it this way , of course could make one feel depressed , but why do we both not feel this way ? Well , I think there is no need to answer this question , it's obvious .





Qing and I , were / are , alway's together anyway ! It might only be in Heart or in Mind , but together never the less !!!





So , we don't look at it like you would think , and this is what makes our Love stronger . Of course celebrating one year as a Married couple , is special any way you look at it , it's a very loving and happy as can be Marriage , for what the circumstance's are in our Life's . It all comes down to how wonderful it will be , ones we are united and living together , with many happy year's to look forward to .

How much more beautiful can Life really be , being together having Tea on a Boat and have the Lady rowing sing wonderful chinese love story song's to you ? I'd say , at that moment in Old Shanghai and on the waterway's , with your beautiful Lao Po , is there anything more heart-warming than this ?
This only being one , of so many great time's we actually got to spend together so far . Unforgetable moment's that will never fade out of ones memory , at least not if I can help it .
One thing , in this Picture , does bother me somewhat ! What is it ?
It's Me , being one inch ( 2.5 cm ) taller than Qing , but it does not show ? Because , as in many Photo's , I seem to slouch and I do have to remember to sit up straight . This alway's has been a problem of mine . Need to have Qing , tab me in the back , if she see's me doing it . I don't like bad posture in my Wife and Family's , so why would I like it not to be the same for me also ?
That is one bad habit that I do have , and I am thankful not to have too many other ones . But then , Qing might find some other ones I have and did not know about ?
This is a very important issue , in a marriage , that needs to be brought up on the surface and discussed , to not let it become bigger then it has to be . So far , I can not say , I have noticed any bad habit's on my Lao Po . But time will tell ? Everybody has some , one or the other , somewhere stacked away , til being noticed by the other Spouse . I really look foreward to see if my little ( Tall ) Flower has any of them ? I can't be the only one ? Hehehe .

Visiting Chinatown and thinking of my Wife .

Yesterday , I was to meet up with about twenty People , Family and Friends , to have a Sunday champagne Brunch at this beautiful Restaurant on top of the hill , overlooking the San Fernando Valley . It was just a wonderful clear day and one could see for many miles in all directions . This was of course all you can Eat and talk about " Arnold the Pig "


But I was not the only one eating for three hour's ... yes three hour's . Talking about getting your Money's worth over and over and over in Lux and Crab Leg's alone . Good thing , I left my Belt at home . Hehe .


So stuffed to the fullest , I did not want to go home and lay around with this Belly . There are no Pictures of me , my Camera does not have a wide angle lens on it . Sorry Guy's .


So , I decided to go to Chinatown , which is about an hour's drive from the Valley . I ask my friend Albert and his Wife , which He also met through the Internet from Indonesia , and their little Boy . They agreed to come with me . Albert's wife has never been to Chinatown up to now . the first thing that came to her mind was the Tea flavored Blum's , that I brought with me for them from Shanghai . Ones we arrived , parked our Car and went on foot from here on . As you can imagine , the first thought , coming to my mind of course , is Qing . How I picture her here with me , going down the street and looking into every Store that comes along . As we go through the Market Place , clothes
everywhere and all I can think of is , how would Qing look in this Dress , this Skirt , this Blouse . Same goes for the Kitchenware , Tea set's , Dinner plate's ect. ... ect. , would she like this or that ? At the Grocery Store , I look at all those Food item's and picture Qing making this and that , since I have no idea what to use them for ? Leave alone what most of the item's even are ? How I wished she was next to me , hand in hand ? It is hard , to get together with Family and Friend's and everybody is with a spouse and I'm the only one by myself . This makes it so much harder , not having my Wife with me . But , I can't feel sorry for myself , because Qing is going through the same hard time as me . So walking from Store to Store and seeing all those Chinese People and Character's everywhere , comfort's my heart somewhat though .

In a way it makes me feel closer to Qing . That's why I go there as often as I can , to be reminded to what a wonderful Woman I am married to . I love to just look at the chinese character's , to see if I recogize any of the many ? That alway's remind's me of Qing's handwritten Promise Letter for the Wedding . Such lovely handwriting , to me it looks like Art more so , then written Word's of Love . This is a very special piece of paper , that is so dear to my Heart , it provoke's tear's in my Eyes , every time I look at it . I know what it all means and how special I am to my Sweetheart . I will ask her to write it again in Japanese character's for me , just because I can not get enough of my Lao Po's handwriting . Love it as much as her voice and her singing . What a treat my Ear's and my Eyes will receive in my later year's of my Life and what a wonderful Woman , I get to hold in my Arm's and get to call my very own China Doll / Lao Po / Tai Tai . "^_^" !!!

*** WO AI NONG , WO DE SHANGHAI HUA , YONG YUAN ***

Preparing for my Sweetheart , to join me here .

As time moves closer and closer , for your Sweetheart to be with you and turn your House into a warm HOME for the newly joined couple . This special Flag , which is my second , since I know my Wife " QING " , she loved the first one . Similar to this one , but with the wind , they only last so long , and I took it down before it's all torn up . By looking at it , no need to mention how I feel and of course it is because of my Sweet Wife , I feel this way .

So , what I have been thinking as of late , is what needs to be done , to welcome my Sweetheart to her new HOME ?

I have started month's ago with this already , with a little here and there , putting Pictures of my Qing and her Family up in my Livingroom , Hallway and one Bedroom . Now that it's getting closer to that special day in the near futrue , I need to make room in our walk in Closet , still have many of my late wife's Clothes and Shoe's hanging around , the same goes for the Dresser draw's and night stand's . So , what to do with all this my late wife's thing's ? It's not easy to just give it away , as I have done already with many of her thing's , to my Step-daughter's and other Family member's over time . You can imagine , everything is of value to me of course , so I have this on my Mind for some time now . I gave a lot to Goodwill already , where most of the item's are like new . I think what is best , is to put it all into Boxes , so not to see it for some time and eventually it is going to be easier to hand it over for a good cause . I want to have room for my Sweetheart's clothes ( like 75% of the walk-in closet ) that seems fair . Since I can use the other Bedroom's closet for most my Stuff . That is pretty much what we have on closet space for clothes that is , because I turned our third Bedroom into a Familyroom with a Big screen TV and shelf's . I think my Qing will be very Happy with the space she will enjoy here in OUR house . Today , alway's thinking of my Lao Po , bought some more Lily's for the outside ( Pure White ) with some luck , they will like where I put them . You know Flower's are like Women , they all need and want that special place in everything you do , so very important where you place them . How much Sun light , how warm , how cold , how wet , oh boy ? Good thing I know Women , so growing Flower's should be easier , right ? Ahhh...wait a minute , or is it the other way around ? Well , either way it will work for the best .

One can not like/love a " WOMAN " without liking/loving " FLOWER'S "

Because Women are like Flower's , each one is different and has it's own beauty , in one way or the other . Besides , I'm a BEE , so who would know better than a BEE ?

So my Sweetheart can be sure that when she get's here , she will find comfort , being with her Lao Gong . I did not say easy , but with the wonderful LOVE that we share , nothing is going to be standing in our way .

*** THE BEE NEED'S HIS FLOWER TO LIVE ***

Today , I'm going to discuss, what does Love mean ?

Well , like you see here ,
" LOVE NEVER FAILS "
that is true only , if two People share what they call TRUE LOVE . Love also can turn easy into hatred , when mis- used or simply neglected and not cherished to it's fullest . So , why is there such a thin line between the two . Does anybody really know , the answer to this question ? I myself would think , it's the lose of someone , that you cared for and Loved , like nobody you ever loved in this Life . So this lose will turn into a emotion that is exactly the opposite ( hatred ) . Just like when one looses a Loved one due to a Death , and this will turn you to mourning instead of hatred . Oh , but even then , you will go through a period of anger but don't really know who to blame for it , unless it was due to a crime of course .

LOVE ... can also be put into four category's ;
JOY---WISDOM---HOPE---COURAGE .

JOY : This is what you will experience from day one , after meeting your Girlfriend / Soul-mate for the first time and realizing this is going to go far into a relationship . Doing all kind's of active thing's together , if it's just talking , going out to have fun or eating at your favorite Restaurant , going to see a Movie , play some kind of Sport you both are good at , or not that good at it , as long you are together and if it's fun , that is all that matter's anyway . Just staying home and cuddle up to one another , and if their are Children , to enjoy them is as they grow brings a lot of Joy to a couple ( most of the time , hehe ) .
There is just no end , of all the Joy a loving couple can have on any given day or evening .

WISDOM : Being smart , having much knowledge of Life in general , even having a sixth sence , and of course common sence . This Wisdom , grow's as one get's older and wiser , with each one of us induvidual's growing at a different pace , like everything else , that has of some kind of value in Life . This Wisdom , can be shared in between two Lover's , to improof each other's Wisdom and so forth . This also include's , languages of different kind's , history and culture's and sharing the other's up bringing and life value's . This is a very important part of any relationship , because this is where the many / most difference's of each Person are , so very important to share those as early as possible in a relationship . This is very true , especially if one thinks , their Wisdom or Knowledge is better then the other's . This is where most of the time , the age difference between two , that is TOO large ( either way ) comes into play and can cause a lot of trouble , that might not be managable from either party . So sharing and respecting the other is the key to a successful Marriage .

HOPE : This also could be called WISHING . This is what Soul-mate's / Married couple's , share pretty much on an equal bases through the entire relationship . Hoping to stay healthy to a long and old age , having the necessity's in Life , to live comfortable and respectable Life style together as a loving Family and being good Friend's and Neighbor's to many and the community which they live in . This also is where Dream's can be put , as those are Hope's as well . Either one , should never loose out on Hope and Dream's , that is when Life will stand still from there on .

COURAGE : This is something at least one of the Couple should possess , at all times . This is what makes all this possible , as to find what one is looking for in a Soul-mate , Wife / Husband , without it it is almost impossible to meet anybody of the opposite Sex . After having Courage to find the True Love , it is just on to the next step , finding , getting , making , having , believing , what ever LIfe throw's our way , may it be good or bad , it takes COURAGE , HOPE , WISDOM , JOY and of course a lot of LOVE to make it all work .

So , what does this all tell you ? Find your LOVE first and you will have all the other four with no problem . " TRUE LOVE " that is .

What am I doing to pass the time ?

I would say , I must be doing something to pass the same time , Qing is busy with ? I can not say I have it easy , taking care of my House ( inside and outside ) and do what a married couple would do , but having to do it all myself and some . So there are a few thing's that I do get to enjoy , from time to time , if my work schedule permit's it . I love to do yardwork , as you can see the Landscaping in front of my House , is all done by no other but myself . It relaxes me , when I'm not in a rush to finish something , due to other stuff inside the House , like washing or cleaning , ironing or cooking , food shopping or bill paying and banking . Second , I like to be here on the Computer , first to write to my Sweetheart , family's , friend's or be of help on not just one but four Forum's , with the most important being the new China Love Info. Forum . So you can imagine , this will pretty much do me in , during the week . So on weekend's , if I'm not doing yardwork , going visisting Family member's or be over at my Neighbor's housefor a little Party . I like to get into my Hot Spring Spa , which is a great way to relax the Body and help those aching bones , from being on your feet all day . I can not wait , to share this wonderful feeling with my Lao Po under the star's or a Moon lit sky . This has alway's been more enjoyable with two people , talking about ones day or what happen's in the new's or just being Romantic with the one you Love . So much better , than only by yourself . What I usually do , is make my Phone calls to Germany , to Mother , Uncle's , Cousin's . This is also a very great place , to dream , while you being massaged by the many jet's . Yes, dream one does and it's alway's the same dream , how wonderful it would be , if my Qing was right next to me . Now that would really be part of Heaven in my very own backyard . I wish that , she would like to share this dream with me , in the not so far away future . Lao Gong and Lao Po

doing " 102 F " degree's together , til cooked . Hehehe ^_^ .

One more thing I like to do is , grow my own Grape's ( red and green ) not to make Wine , but to Eat and share with my Neighbor's , which I could not wish for better ones . This project is only about 75% finished . When sitting at that Bench when done , one can look through the Grapes and right at the waterfall , that I started when my first Wife died and never continued to finish it , just for myself . But now I have a reason to get back on it , ones my Sweetheart is here and I have some more time to take care of my Yard .

In other word's , eager to finish it for my Lao Po , to sit on that very Bench at Moon Festival , which is perfectly aligned with the rising Moon .

All this was also a dream , that came true , slowly but surely .

But most of all , what I spend most time on .... is thinking of my wife Qing , day in day out , everyday !

What's my Lao Po doing to pass the time ?

One might think , that is what my Sweetheart does Day in and Day out , playing Badminton , but ... that is far from what she really does ? One should think , this is a good way to pass the time between my Visit's , to be by my Wife's side . In fact , this was the a Game we play'd in May last year , because ... that is what we were going to do , from writing about it over the month's , preceding my first Trip , to meet my Qing . I was not going to let her get away , without a serious Match at Oriental Park , before having a big Bar-b-cue afterward's . The final score ....

we both Won , no kidding , there was no loser .

Some of you might think , it's not Badminton to pass the time , it's riding a Bicycle , like here in Hangzhou around West Lake . Either way , my Lao Po really looks in great form and ready for that 17 kil . trip around the Lake , with stop's at many beautiful Park's everywhere . Ride , park the Bike , lock it , and walk for some time through those wonderful Park's and hop back onto the Bicycle and on to the next . So about four - five hour's is easily spend on the round-trip around the Lake . It is just awesome , how pretty and clean everything is there . I have yet to see , here in America , a large area that is as clean and comfortable to ride in . A place one must see and experience , if possible , at least ones in a Lifetime .

Well now , neither of those two Fun thing's are filling my Qing's time waiting for my return .

I must tell you , most everytime I call my Sweetheart , may it be a weekday or on the weekend ( including Sunday's ) , she will be hard at work in her brother's company . I do make fun of it , that I alway's catch her working , that I feel quilty sometimes , when I am at home relaxing or doing yardwork at my House , which I do enjoy very much like a Hobby . This Woman , know's how to really take care of her Lao Gong and also know's how to be devoted 100% to her work too . Most Women here are one or the other , seldom both . On top of that a very devoted and loving Mother to our little Boy . I would say , my Sweetheart is perfect all around Wife , Mother and Woman and a alway's nice ( never naughty ) daughter to her Parent's and a Sister that every Brother wishes he'd have .

I do not need to say anymore , *** I LOVE THIS WOMAN , MY WIFE ***

Anybody know's what's today ?

It's the 13 th , and I will not Post on any 13 th day of the month .

Sorry for the inconvenience , the Author .

A letter from your Sweetheart later .

After an rather up and down ( emotional wise ) weekend , how writing and receiving a lovely letter from your Lao Po , can change your mood , is just amazing . All because I miss my Wife so much , I can not handle it sometimes and let emotions get the best of me . But a little contact in any way with your Sweetheart , and poof ... it's like a slap in the Face , no ... not in a bad way , just to make you realize , you really not alone anymore . There is somebody that care's for you and loves you , like no other . The Heart know's , but the Mind forget's sometimes and let's the negative come forward , even if your not willing to do so . Oh , some People complain , they can not figure Women out , but what about LOVE ? It certainly can throw you through some loop's and leave you disoriented for sure . This is most noticeable , while being apart , I'm sure . Thanks God , I have never gone through that with my first wife and I expect not to go through it , ones my Lao Po is by my side for good .

Now , let's start on my second Trip to be with my Qing , which happen's to by in August last year . This Trip was going to be even more special than the first one . In what way ? First of all , me and Qing would be together again after three month's of waiting patiently again , but looking forward , what was to be our Wedding Ceremony get-together of not just Qing's Family and Friend's , but part of my Family too .

So arriving on 02 August , that was Qing's first trip to the Airport , to pick me up . Then , on the 04 Aug. , it was back to Pudong Airport again , to pick my Uncle and Aunt , coming from Los Angeles . Three hour's later , after having Lunch at one of the Airport's Restaurant's , it was time for my Friend and his wife from Washington State ( near Seattle ) , to get picked up . After gathering everybody and everything that was to carry , we looked for the Taxi Van , Qing had ordered the day before , for seven People and we all got dropped off at our Hotel's . Qing and I , my Uncle and my Aunt stayed at the same Hotel , but my Friend had to get a different Hotel , because our's was all booked up at that time . We wanted to make it easy as possible later in the week , for everyone to be at the Ceremony at the same time . But now , them all Checked in , Qing and I and my Aunt ( Uncle was too tired ) went to visit Qing's Parent's in the afternoon and then we all got together for a wonderful Dinner that Qing's brother Ming to us out to a just marvelous Restaurant with private room of course for 12 this time . What a Meal , Ming alway's know just the right thing's to order for everybody . No need to worry about what to eat , when he is there with us . After a good night's sleep for everybody , I 'm sure , guess what ? Yes ... back to Pudong ones , more for the third time for my poor Qing , to pick up my Mom this time , coming from Germany . I could drive to Pudong blindfolded by now . Hehe

So this being my second Trip and having seen pretty much everything in and around Shanghai and Hangzhou , this was going to be like Qing and I were going to be their Tour-guide's , for their Stay , except Friday the 08-08-08 which was our Wedding Celebration day . We still thinks it's funny , going to the Airport half a dozen times in two week's time and the same goes for Yu Yuan Garden's . That to this day , I make fun of Qing and tell her every day , including my last Feb.09 visit ... I want to go to Yu Yuan Garden . We do actually go there often , because of the Xiaolongbao Dumpling's that everyone loves that lives or visit's China . So after showing my Family all round Town ( oop's , huge city ) Friday came around and the Heart-beat took a climb upward's for both Qing and myself . We can really say , it was a more wonderful day , that we could have wished ( except the sole of my new italian shoe's wanting to come off and leaving me behind ) thanks God for Super glue . Spinning your Wife around in circle's for the Camera and Video , on uneven Paver's is not a good idea , better to take them off first . After all was eaten and no bottle was left but empty ones , it was time to retire into our Hotel room's for some s. , no that's not to be told , a Gentleman doesn't talk about stuff like sleeping to anybody .

After a good and hardy breakfast the next morning , it was off and get packed into a Taxi Van again , for a 1/2 day trip to Shanghai Mountain Park and Sculpture Park , but without my Friend and his wife , they decided to go their own way's this time and shopping and to visit the Bund , which we after getting back went to . because Friday's and Saturday night the City is lit up with all it's beauty , one needs to be at either the Oriental Tower , Jinmao Building or the new World Financial Tower , which was not quite done with the hightest Observation deck in the world . This is a sight not to be missed at any cost .

This sight , at night , over the Bund and it's golden color and the River below , plus everything else that is lit up , is what brought me to this City in the first place , through those lovely 12 Girl's , mentioned earlier in my Blog .

But like the first Trip of mine , this one was not without any incident's . On the following Sunday , I bought seven Train Ticket's for Hangzhou for all of us . With my Friend from the Seattle area , he had this Medical problem of having to go to the restroom about every half hour and you all know , it's not the easiest thing to find a Public Restroom in China . So we arrived in Hangzhou and decided first to go to West Lake and to the Lingyin Temple's , which consist's of five Temple's one after the other going up this steep Mountain . So knowing of this climb , my Friend , which had to stay close to a restroom and my Mom could not climb up this Mountain in August's heat and humidity , stayed behind . After two hour's or so , we came down to the place we left them behind , only to find that my Friend ( Hans ) was missing . After checking all the restroom's over and over and going halfway up the mountain ( Me and my Uncle ) no sign of him anywhere ? Back to the entrance and looking in all the Shop's , Reataurant's , nothing ? By now , you can imagine his poor Wife , how worried she was , coming to China for the first time and to loose your Husband , aweful thought . As not to waste everybody's day , I told Qing , she is so nice , no wonder I love her so much , why don't you go and take everybody and use the Van and go up to the Tea Village and the Lake , since I been there already , I will stay back and keep looking to find him . So everybody thought that was the best thing to do , no need for everybody's day be ruined . So , here I was by myself checking the whole Park from one end to the other for three hour's more and now I just waited for them to return with the rented Van . no sight of him , and I had his Train Ticket still in my Pocket . So we tried to convince his wife he must of gone back to Shanghai on his own , because he did not want to be in our way and hold us up , alway's having to go and find a restroom . Something I could understand , but WHY not tell us ? So back on the Train to Shanghai we all went , droped off my Uncle and Aunt at the Hotel . Qing and I stay'd with my Friends wife and drove to their Hotel , just to be sure he was there , or else stay with her , not to be alone , if he wasn't there . Well , she opened the door to there Room and he was sleeping of all thing's . It was a releave to say at the least , but Qing and I weren't going to stick around to find out what she had to say about the whole thing . We still not let him forget this day , why would we ?

So after all this , first my Uncle and Aunt went back home and the next day my Friend? and his wife left for Pudong Airport . No need for Qing and Myself seeing them off there , we did that at the Hotel's . Tha next day it was my turn to say goodbye to my Lao Po for the second time , for a third and six month's wait between the next Trip in Febuary '09 . But overall , a wonderful and a very exciting and happy event .

So our *** changed here and there into 888 instead , as you all know , it's the same Key on the Keyboard . Of course it is !!! Fate at work ... over and over and over again .

*** WU AI NONG , WO DE SHANGHAI HUA , YONG YUAN ***

What little it takes ?

Really , sometimes you must wonder about yourself , what's wrong with you ?
Got up this morning , still not in the greatest mood . But after I ate Breakfast , my own cooking , I wrote a letter to my sweet Wife . One that was not a real happy letter , but after I send it off , I started to feel better all of a sudden . Is it because I was sharing my sadness with the one I love the most , and realizing that she feel's the same from her home ? Or is it , because ... knowing how much she LOVES me ? I think it's the later of the two . Knowing , no matter how bad one feel's , there is alway's the one that Loves you and is there for you , to cheer you up . Even , without putting in one word , on paper or otherwise .
Love comes in so many way's , one has to be part of it , to get to experience all it's beauty .
*** I LOVE YOU , SWEETHEART *** I know , my Sweetheart is reading my blog also and she know's , how much I love her .

" Thank you for cheering me up " !!! BBB is buzzing again ^_^ !!!

Miss my Qing !

Today , I was going to write about my second trip , but I was not in a very good mood . Writing about our first time together , the last two day's , reminded me how much I really miss my Wife . People alway's tell you , making memories is a beautiful thing . Then , why does it alway's hurt and put you in a sad mood , thinking about how wonderful it's been , spending this quality time , hand in hand with my Sweetheart ? I find it strange , to feel so great one day , thinking of your Wife and the next be such a turnaround , that you could almost cry . All I can think of , is that this must be normal to fell this way ? I have never been apart from my first Wife , so this is new to me . Something I have to adjust to , for a little longer . I also realize , this is just as hard for my Qing , it is new to her too . The more your in Love , the more it will hurt being apart . The second problem is our Government , to let it drag on this long with all the Paperwork , that I'm sure could be done in a much shorter time frame . It seems , when money is involved , everything moves alot faster, than helping two People in Love , that only want to be together , that's all .
I think the Lawyer has also something to do with me feeling this way right now .

Yesterday , he called me at work , asking for my late wife's Death Certificate , the Original he ask for , he had a copy already . Second , he wanted Pay stub's for three weeks and a Letter from my Uncle , saying that I had worked there for 37 year's . Now , why in the heck , didn't he tell me that when I tropped off all the other paper's last week ? So another week gone by , with paper's just sitting there , instead of being send to the Visa Center . I understand , they have more Customer's than just me , but what is a phone call a day after , no ... why not wait a whole week to call ? Makes me mad , having to count on People , that take their sweet time and besides having to pay them good money for it .
I don't feel like going anywhere this Easter weekend , when in fact I was invited in two places . Nobody want's to have a grumpy Relative as a Guest . That will give me two day's , for feeling sorry for myself .

First Trip continued .

After a good night sleep , woke up and the first thing my Eyes saw , was my beautiful Sweetheart next to me . So it was also not a dream . I felt as happy as the Snowman , that I drove two hour's to get to the Snow and it was pouring rain , but I was determined to build a Snowman for my Qing . Umbrella in one hand and the Paprika in the other , to work I went . I can truely say , I'm head over heels in Love with this Woman , to do things I have never done or concidered , like writing Poems .

So after Breakfast , we went sightseeing to the Pudong area and the Bund , which of course is famous here , along with the Huang Pu River . In the evening , I got to meet Qing's brother Ming and his Wife and he took us all out for a very nice Dinner , with a private room and a Table for ten . What a great brother Qing has , he has gone out of his way , to let us have his Car with Qing's Cousin as driver , for most of the eleven day's I was staying . I really got treated like a King , for this being my first trip and all , I could see that I was part of this loving Family already , as soon as I stepped of that Plane . Where , I must ask myself , can you be excepted like I have been a Family member for ever . I know here in America are some nice People like this , but some of my own Family don't treat me like this .

Been here in Shanghai for two day's and I have learned many thing's already ; first : how Qing is more beautiful , then I have ever thought ;

second : how kind and loving her Family is ;

third : how friendly the People are in general ;

fourth : how clean and safe the City feel's ;

fifth : how great the Food is here , unusual but great ;

sixth : that I would not mind , living in Shanghai some day .

Looking for a Soul-mate , and received a whole Family's Love . I can not see myself any happier , than to have Qing here with me , for good and forever .

*** ICH LIEBE DICH *** BUZZ BUZZ BEE AND TALL TAI TAI ***
So , this trip was really a experience of a Lifetime , which included ... Oldtown Shanghai , Oriental and Century Park's , Yu Yuan Garden , a Cruise on the River .

The most wonderful day , was 09th May 'o8 , when Qing and I got Married at the Registry , to seal our " True Love " . It was the second day after I arrived . It was the only rainy day of the eleven , so we decided , this would be the best time , as sightseeing was out of the question . Ones we were Husband and Wife , we also had to take care of the August wedding ceremony and set everything up for my second trip , which included ... my Mother from Germany , my Uncle and Aunt from California , a Friend and his Wife from Washington State . All this did not take more than a couple of afternoon's through Downtown . The time was approaching to say our first goodbye's and having to go through a second waiting period , to be together again in August .

Arnold's last word's .... I'll be back !! Sweetheart !

Today , I like to take a view back !

Ones in a while , I like to think back , when I came to Shanghai for the first time ( photo on left ) . I know exactly how I felt at this moment when I took that photo , coming in for a landing at Pudong Airport . Flying for 13 hour's to Beijing and another 2 hour's to finally arrive what was my destination , on 7th May '08 , to be with my beautiful Lady , that up to this point in a way , only existed on paper and as a voice over the Phone . But our Heart's loved each other , so much , that this was not only to see my Sweetheart for the first time Face to Face , also to get married on this my first trip to China .

So , how did I feel , at the moment this photo was taken ? I would be lying if I was not the happiest , yet ... also a very nervous Man . Not so much , meeting my Qing , well maybe a little , but coming to a place with different Custom's and Culture and not knowing the Mandarin or Shanghainese for that matter .

From right here , I was about one hour away , to meet ... after seven month's of writing the most warm , romantic and yes sometimes very Hot letter's ... my Shanghai Flower , that the Palmdale Bee has found because of her lovely Profile photo ( photo right ) . With this on my Mind , after picking up my Luggage and going through the Custom check-point , I stepped out through the glass door . Looking left and looking right , through and over many People that were waiting to meet other's . I did not see any sight of Qing . So , my Heart racing by now about 200 plus , I walked through the Corridor that lead's to the way out , where all the Taxi's and Buses are waiting . Still no Qing ? Now of course I start to worry , what if ... what if ? So I went back inside to the Meeting place one more time , nothing ? What next , I thought ? The Telephone , I did have Qing's phone number with me , called her cell phone . My luck , only a chinese message on it , which of course did not know what it's say'd . Great ??? I put the phone down and started walking again toward's the exit , twenty minute's have passed and no Qing . When all of a sudden , a strange Man at the Phonebooth that I was using call me back and ask if my name was Arnold ? Qing had called that booth and the Man was just standing there , when it rang . It was my Sweetheart on the Phone after all that , she was late due to heavy Traffic to the Airport , which is about two hour's from her home . Oh , what a relief , as you can imagine .

Five minute's later Qing spotted me first and called me by my name and I turned around and my Heart almost jumped out of my chest , when I saw her standing only feet away in front of me . One could knock all my memory out of my Brain , but this moment will never leave it . What one might think was all a dream , was standing right in front of me , we looked into each other's Eyes . Realizing , we can feel each other's Hand and touch the Hair , see the same smile , that got me starting to write to her on 23rd Nov .'07 . Needless to say , we hugged and started to Kiss ... and Kiss , looked into ones Eyes and Kissed some more . It was all unreal , how much love we had for each other , and it is still growing with every minute , together or apart . Our Heart's , our Mind's , our Love , the Bee and the Flower are alway's connected by " True Love " .

So after that exciting first meeting , it was off to the Tanfu Business Hotel , Qing's cousin Xu Xin , dropped us off there and after checking in , it was time for some Lunch and we decided on Sushi at a Japanese Restaurant right next to the Hotel . Yes , laugh ... in China and going to eat Sushi for our first meal together ... I agree , that is funny .

In the late Afternoon , we got picked up by Xu Xin again , to take us ( Me ) to meet Qing's Parent's and for a home cooked Dinner at there House . Of course this time I was not as nervous , because I had my Qing with me this time . Ater meeting Qing's wonderful Parent's and a most delicious Dinner . Why was I not surprised that Qing's Parent's are as nice and as kind , as she is ? What a loving Family , I am going to be part of ? They love me like their own Son , and I am Honored to call them Gong Gong ( ba ba ) and Mma . Not to forget Qing's little boy " TianChi " me and him , got along well right from the beginning , with his Mother's help of course .

What an exiting 48 hour's without sleep , I was ready for Bed and a good night sleep , in my Sweetheart's arms , or was it the other way around ?

....to be continued .

Why did I select a chinese Woman , to be my Wife ?

I know , I am not the only one too have ask that question , in the past . Why choose a Woman that lives halfway around the World , when there are plenty in my Hometown or a lot closer ? I , to start , have alway's liked the Chinese Culture and their very old and very interesting History , that stretches over many thousand of year's . So was alway's fascinated , whatever had to do with China , as a Child and now as an Adult . I never like our own ( german ) history , except the time when all those Castle's were build and their great story's , which of course some were very bloody then , but that was my biggest interest , when all those Knight's roamed the Countryside . World War I & World War II , was a very dark period in Germany and I really did not want to be part of it or to know much about it . Anyhow , back to why I wanted to choose a chinese Woman as a Wife . Actually , it was just a Dream that I had at first , what would it be like ? To really be married to such a beautiful Woman ? By that , I mean ... they are all so beautiful in their appearance , alway's that beautiful long black Hair and of course one must mention those gorgeous and intriqueing Eyes , that can almost hypnotize you and leave you speachless . So how did this dream turn into reality ? This is where Fate / Destiny comes in , like with a big boom one day , and behold , what comes on my TV screen ? Watching PBS , which is one of the Channel's I watch the most , I see the 12 Girl's Band's concert from Shanghai , right from below the Oriental Pearl Tower . Now , not only did the night scene of Shanghai , blow me away , but the Music of those Girl's was just to much to fill my Heart . Listening to these wonderful , most beautiful Women , playing their traditional chinese instrument's , I could do no less , then get a roundtrip Ticket to Shanghai , just two weeks after that concert . Mind you , that trip was in Honor of my first Wife , that passed away from Cancer . Those Ticket's were for May 6th '08 , which would have been our 30 th Anniversary . So , at that moment , I have not heared one work about Chnlove yet . This is when Fate / Destiny took over my Life so to speak and I followed it like a little Kid following his/her Mom , wherever she goes . At this time all I could think off , was how beautiful and talented those 12Girl's ( 13 actually ) were , that left me dreaming and picking two or three that I really had a crush on , like a teenager on his first Girl . That very moment , I decided and made up my Mind , that I would want a chinese Woman as my next Wife . Little did I know , that Fate was going to bring me to Qing eventually . Realizing , after getting to know Her really well , that these Women , are not just gorgeous on the outside , but even more beautiful on the inside . As a Man , that was just month's earlier moarning the loss of a equally wonderful Woman , I could not retain myself and wanted to just go out and scream how much I love that Woman , that I have met over the Internet . I could have kissed my Computer for what it had done for me . It opened up my Heart to a new Life , with the MOST lovely , nicest , warmhearted , soft voiced , brilliantly smart ( tri langual ) , tall and now my Wife / Lao Po / Tai Tai , my Shanghai Flower .
A chinese Wife , I would not want it any other way .

" Thank you Sweetheart , for making my Dream become a reality . "^_^"
*** I WILL LOVE YOU ALWAY'S , FOR IT ***

Qing/Ming Festival through my Qing's Eyes!

Today , I want to remember what it is like to be part of this very special , yearly visit to the Gravesite of passed Ancester's and Loved ones . This annual trip to pay respect , is a whole Family ceremony each time , if possible , as health and the distance to the actual gravesite varies with each individual Person and Family member's . What makes this Ceremony special ? As I understand , from learning from my beautiful Wife , they bring Flower's , many kind's of Fruit ( Apple's , Oranges , Banana's , ect. ) they bring Candle's and Insence , which is a must when Praying for keeping the Family healthy and safe and a long and happy Life . They also burn ( Fake ) Money , which is concidered special Money for the Ancester's to use in Heaven . As I am a Catholic , with my own believes of God and Heaven , this is still a big part of my Wife , so I in a way , also appreciate their believes , we all do want pretty much the same think out of Life and when it comes to an end , to be part of a place , we here on Earth call Heaven . Of course one must earn it , while living our Life's here , among each other .
PS: Knowing my Qing , she pray'd not only for her Family as a whole , but I know she pray'd for her Shanghai MiFeng and for Herself , to have good health , a wonderful , happy future and a long Life for both of us , together in America , and help her to adjust well to our Customs and Culture . Being with the one you truely Love , it will be half as hard , as one might think .

My Prayer's go out to three Family's , my own , my late wife's , my new Family . Which in a way , show's my Prayer's go all around the Earth and hopefully also reach Heaven .

This being Qing / Ming Day , I'll remember !

This is a very special Day , not for the living only . No but also for the ones , if it was not for them , none of us would be here right now . I'm talking about our loved ones that passed away , many , many year's ago or not so long ago , maybe even just month's .

So , I like to take this moment , while I'm writing this , to think back as far as I can and remember my Great-Grandparent's , my Grandparent's , my Parent's ( if passed away ) along with all my Aunt's and Uncle's , that I might not even had a chance to ever meet , and their Children , to say a little Prayer and think of them for a while , what they have done in their Life's and how it could have affected me and in what way . ***************************************************************************

May God let them all rest in Peace and let them dwell by His side in Heaven !

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By now , who ever read's this , must wonder WHY the photo of the 12 Girl's Band on top of my letter ? Well , this is also a day to remember the Living . Personally , I myself and my wife Qing , must pay thank you to these Girl's , because of what we have now , Qing and I , we can truely say , without those Girl's , none of this would have ever happened , to either of us two . We really wish that one Day .... we have the chance to thank them in Person .

So please , remember the ones passed and the ones still with us and loving us , for who we are .

Thank you .... Thank you ....and another Thank you , from Myself and my wife Qing !

How one feel's after a Phone call to your Sweetheart ?

This Photo that my wife Qing send to me before we were Married , was one of many , that made me feel so Loved by a Woman that I have not even met face to face yet . These little things , which are really huge in building a foundation in any relationship , that one can look back upon , at times of closeness or times of sadness and trouble , to actually see what has brought us two together . That is why it is so very important , to never ... never forget these little thing she does for you out of LOVE to finally become " TRUE LOVE " between two people . The same of course goes for the things you do for Her , for which she will Love you more . Believe me , Women never forget any small or large Romantic somethings you have done for her . Like it's been many times repeated , action speak's louder then a thousand word's . Back to the Title , the Phone call ? This in a way , is how I feel , after a call . I start first to think how wonderful her voice is to my Ear's , how comforting it is to the Heart , to have a wonderful and most beautiful Woman on the other end of that phoneline and in LOVE with me ? One that thinks more of you , then you do of yourself many times ? So , I start to remember all the great and loving thing's my Sweetheart has done for me over a time period , that made me think sometimes , if I am really the Prince she see's in me ? Laying on the Bed and feeling the LOVE that just came through the Phoneline to me , I start to feel that I must be that Prince she was looking for and what comes all over your Body at this special moment , is her LOVE flowing all over your Body like water in a shower , like walking in the Rain , where each raindrop is filled with her LOVE . To get to expierence this kind of LOVE is like NOTHING in the world . It's one thing , money can not buy , and it can be shared by the poor and the wealthy equally .

This makes a Phone call ( while having to wait , to be together ) so special , the sound of your one and only LOVE , the sound of her voice , may it be in Chinese or broken English , it does not matter one little bit . It's the Voice of the one in your Heart and the Voice of your TRUE LOVE .

Missing your Lao Po .... and the long wait !!!

The big wait ? I don't need to tell anybody that is in Love with a chinese Lady , from another Country , and has to go through this part of the Relationship , being in Love like never before , but being apart by many many miles and an Ocean in between the two Heart's . Heart's that are longing to be together , with a loving embrace of four arms and a gentle kiss on the Lips .

This now is the fourth time , Qing and I must be waiting , to be together . Each time it is many month's of only E-Mailing and Phone call's , to stay as close as two people possibly can , through those circumstanes , that Life brings to certain Couple's , that find their TRUE LOVE on the other side of the World . So , at different moment's of time passing , one thought comes to Mind , is all this waiting worth the trouble , sadness , heartache of being lonely despite being Married ? Why is it , that after every Visit , to be with your Sweetheart , it get's harder and more difficult each time one has to leave the one you LOVE like no other , behind to only start the waiting all over again ? That question can be answered , by a simple , each time your together , the bond between two Lover's becomes stronger and stronger , that one can not Be or Live without the other . To have this kind of LOVE , makes all things one has to do for it , worth it many times over . BBB and TTT , will soon be together....never to be apart again . The Bee needs his Flower , the King his Queen , the Emperor his Empress , Arnold his Qing and not to forget , Qing her Arnold .

This special LOVE that Qing and I share , we wish all our Family's and all our Friend's equally . This is the LOVE , we all seek , but not everyone find's .

*** Wo de Shanghai hua , Wu Ai Nong ***

*** Ni de Palmdale MiFeng ***

My other Sister " MIN " in Baoding .

Since I'm talking about one sister , let's not forget my other sister MIN . After first signing up with Chnlove , she was the first of four , that I communicated with by EMF's . Min , lives in Baoding ( Hebei Province ) near Beijing . My first EMF to Min , was on October 23 '07 , right after signing up , not more than two day's afterward's . I must tell you , it did not take long before , we communicated real well and I had good feeling's toward Min , after about three week's of writing . But our relationship could only advance to be good friends ( brother / sister ) because Min had found already a Man from America at the time , and she could not , wanted not , to split her Heart into two pieces , so she nicely told me , that this could only lead to a friendship at most . As wonderful she was to me in this short time , I had not choice but to keep her as a sister . She was a TV announcer in Baoding at that time . Never been married before , alway's thinking of her career first . After Min had told me , about the other MAn in her Life , I decided that I should quit this Partner search here at Chnlove , but Min did not want to have a part of that . She pushed and pulled and talked me into trying again , to find that someone I came to find . The second Lady , Lin , was only 30 at that time and from Shanghai . It started out very well , but soon it was obvious that she was to young for myself and there was not much in common and no chemistry between us . It lasted a good two week's of EMF's , that's it . Later on the Official Forum , I noticed that someone from England married her and brought her to his country , in only three week's , as he stated . Then , as you know by now , came Lily into the Picture , which I explained already earlier on my Blog . On November 23 '07 I send out my letter to my now Wife ( Lao Po / Tai Tai ) and I received her first reply on the 27th Nov. , with an apology for being late , because her Phone had trouble . The next seven month's are not to missed , when my Book will become a reality . Sorry Guy's , not yet .

I am still looking forward to meet both my sister's some day , either in China or here in America . I think my four Brother's are jealous of my Sister's . Can anyone blame them , their beautiful inside and outside ? God bless them both .

Guy's , this is what flower's can do !

From: Lily Tang (Profile ID: P688090 ) To: arnold dusch Date: Apr 2, 2009 GMT Mail ID: P688ECJCFHG
Ni hao, wo qing ai de ge ge,I don't know how to give my appreciation to you my dear ge ge, you touch me so deeply, thank you ge ge, because of you, I light up hope again in this dark period, zheng de hen xie xie ni ge ge¡­.Dear ge ge, I just come back from my mother's grave, I have say thank you for you and I can feel she would smile when she heard that, thank you ge ge, maybe you don't know your concern means what a great power to our family, all of us are so warm and touched, so I must say thank you to you my dear ge ge, thank you¡­.Ge ge, I didn't receive your lily until today, I went out and I didn't bring phone with me yesterday, the agency call me many times but I didn't know, when I came back home I found there are so many calls so I called back, but there was nobody receive it, so I didn't know they wanted to send flowers to me, this morning, I went out again, but I take phone with me, so they told me there is flower from you and they will send to me at noon, when I get home, my father has receive for me and he is going to put the flowers into the vase, I told him this flowers are sent to mother by you, my father was so touched and say thank you many many times, he said it is our honor to have such a good ge ge as you, he said you are really a good person, he ask me must say thank you to you for him¡­.dear ge ge, you must be the angel that the god sent to comfort me through this hard time, there is no friend can remember to send greeting or flower to my mother except you, you are the only one who put my mother in your mind, thank you ge ge, you said thanks my mother for you, to let you have such a nice mei mei in your life, I also want to thanks your mother to let me have such a nice ge ge as you, and thank you for my mother because you support her hopeless daughter in her dark period, thank you ge ge, if you were beside me, I really want to give you a warm hug to express my million of thanks :)dear ge ge, about the man you are going to introduce to me, I am so thankful, I believe any man who introduce by ge ge must be a good man because I trust ge ge, I believe if he isn't a good man, ge ge would not introduce to me, right? so ge ge, yes I would like to know him, please tell him I would like to write with him, does he in Chnlove too? how old is he? How far he lives away from you?my mood is much better today, thank you ge ge, this is the result of your care:)your niece and her friends are beautiful, they are so young, envy, hehe, say hello to Qing :)thank you again ge getake careNi de mei mei,Lily

How I care for my chinese Sister ?

April 1st '09How do I care for a chinese Woman , that I call my Sister ( Mei Mei )?Today , is the perfect day , to talk about my little sister Lily . I have met her on Chnlove just before I met Qing , late '07 . I send her a little EMF , instead of a Cupid Note , about three day's later I received a wonderful and warm letter back from Her . But what happened in those three day's waiting for Lily reply , I also had send Qing a letter , and for some reason , my Heart told me this is the Woman , I should get to know better . So here I was , with two wonderful , kind and warmhearted Women , but could only choose one of them to be , hopefully my future Wife . So what I did , was not the nices move one can make . I ignored Lily toatally from then on , as I was really getting closer to Qing's heart . But , as conscience has it , it left me feeling quilty , for almost a Year . That's when I could not take it anymore , after such a warm reply , I had to write to her and let her know WHY I never replied . I apologized and told her how I felt quilty , not have answered her letter . She barely remembered me , but she did and after all that time , she was still the same wonderful , nice , kind Woman , that I left behind almost a year ago . Well , now of course she is my very own Sister , I would do anything for , in need of help , support and to comfort her , whenever needed . As the month's gone by , she has written to one Man from America (Calif. also ), but he lost his Job and could not continue this venture do to money problem's . Which of course was a heartbreaker for Lily at that time , after month's of writing to each other . Then , Lily's Mom passed away in the Hospital , after a long illness . I wrote her a comforting letter and told her to take as much time as she need's before continueingto write to me . I think six weeks past and she finally wrote back an EMF and told me she was alright now , but her Father was not , which I can understand , going through that myself already . So , she wanted to get back , finding a Man she could call her own . She found a Man , from the States and he dicided to visit her after only a short time of communicating , via EMF's . Which of course Lily though that was kind of strange , but , since she is 49 years old , she see's this as a chance to make something happen . He , arrived , met , stayed in her Home , to save himself some Money , but as it turns out , this Guy only used Lily , pretty much to pay for his meals , sightseeing trip's together , after spending about 4000 yuan ( which includes Money borrowed from her Father )she took it onto herself to ask him , what he was thinking about our relationship , if he had any feeling's toward's her , to continue as a couple ? Well , he say's , he was not sure about the whole thing and this is where this Jerk left her , going back home . So this Man comes over to she Lily , just to use her as a Guide , a pay Pal to get to see some of China , never ones account for Lily having feeling's and getting her hopes up for a better Life . So , here she is , heartbroken a third time since I know her . Believe me , she is a very strong Person , having still to comfort her Dad , little sister and all this happening to her , in such a short time . This is when I wished , I could just go over there and give my and Qing's support to her and her Family . Now of course I'm really careful who she meet's through Chnlove , which by the way , extended her contract by six month's for free , because she did not find somebody yet . I love this Woman , like I do my own Brother's . I am really blessed ( maybe she is also ) to have each other's support . What a wonderful World this is with wonderful People like my Mei Mei Lily . God bless her , and find a her a loving Husband soon . This Woman really deserves the best .